If you’re wondering how you’ll get through the holiday season knowing it may be your last with a loved one – or your first without them – know that you’re not alone.
That’s the main message Emmanuel Hospice Bereavement Coordinator Katie Mayberry wants you to hear as the holidays approach. In addition to sharing resources for free one-on-one and group support, Mayberry has several suggestions for coping with grief around the holidays.
“We recognize this time of year can be especially difficult for those who are grieving the loss of a loved one or anticipating their loved one’s passing,” she says. “A lot of different emotions can come to the surface, which can be difficult to navigate on top of all the usual stressors that come with the holidays.”
Grief can bring on a spectrum of emotions. Mayberry says it’s common to feel sorrowful, angry or empty, but there may also be relief, appreciation and gratitude. Guilt also can be associated with grief, especially when experiencing moments of happiness when your loved one is no longer with you.
“Allow yourself to experience moments of comfort and joy, alongside the lower moods,” Mayberry encourages. “If you find yourself laughing or smiling, or experiencing other positive emotions during the holidays, know they do not cancel out your sadness, nor does it mean you have forgotten your loved one.
“There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but what is important is to recognize everyone grieves differently. Allow yourself to feel emotions as they come up.”
Families who currently have a loved one in hospice care may want to focus on prioritizing quality time together and creating lasting memories during this holiday season. This will likely mean tailoring the celebration to the patient’s abilities and comfort level and your own capacity as a caregiver, even if it means scaling back on festivities.
“Acknowledge that things will be different this year, and remind yourself it’s OK to modify your normal routine,” Mayberry says. “If possible, have open communication with your loved one about their wishes. Invite them into the conversation about the holidays and ask how they want to participate.
“If a conversation isn’t possible, think of creature comforts your loved one has enjoyed in the past and incorporate them into your get-together.”
For families going into the holiday season after the loss of their loved one, activities of remembrance and reflection can be helpful. Mayberry says there are many ways to honor your loved one that can also be therapeutic for you:
Create mementos such as an ornament or wreath with elements that represent your loved one.
Light a candle during your holiday activities in honor of them.
Cook a dish they loved and talk about it during the meal.
Donate or volunteer to support a cause they cared about.
Do anact of kindness in their memory.
“Doing things that make you feel connected to that person can be really comforting,” Mayberry adds. “And while these activities can be meaningful for some people, others may not be in a place to do any of them this holiday season, and that’s OK, too.”
Sometimes you just need someone to talk to, and that’s where professional grief support can help. Emmanuel Hospice’s grief support services are open to anyone in the community on a grief journey regardless of whether they have a prior connection with the nonprofit organization or hospice care. More information about upcoming support groups is available at EmmanuelHospice.org/grief-support.
If anyone is looking for additional resources on how to cope, they can reach out directly to Emmanuel’s grief support team by emailing EHbereavement@EmmanuelHospice.org or calling 616-719-0919.
While the holidays conjure images of festive gatherings with family, special meals lovingly prepared and gifts beautifully wrapped, Paula Lett knows that’s often not the case for the elderly.
As the social services manager for Care Resources, she sees firsthand the grief, emptiness and stress the holidays can bring to those who are aging – but it doesn’t have to be that way.
“Television promotes that loving family with everyone gathered around a tree with presents, which is not reality in many people’s lives,” Lett explains. “Not everyone has strong ties to family or happy associations of the holidays. Seniors do experience a lot of loss and grief at this time and are at higher risk for suicide during the holidays.
“Before, they were the ones who ran the holidays and now they’re on the outside looking in. They might be in a facility and not getting many visits. They may not feel a sense of welcome.”
Lett and her team at Care Resources take special steps around the holidays to make sure participants feel loved and supported. The nonprofit provides holistic, wraparound support for people 55 years and older to promote healthy and independent living – and keep them out of nursing homes.
Lett says there are simple things we can all do to make the holidays brighter and more meaningful for elderly family members, neighbors or friends.
Ask their opinion: It might seem like a simple place to start, but Lett says this act of inclusion can be powerful. “You can say, ‘we’re having this family get-together – what are some of your thoughts?’” Lett explains. “‘We’ll be putting up the tree this weekend – would you like to come and help us?’ Be aware reaching out can mean so much.”
Offer to help: Lett encourages simple offers of help, such as swinging by to shovel the walkway or checking in to make sure their house is warm and their fridge is stocked. These simple acts of kindness, she says, also allow you to take stock of potential declines in older family members or friends that might need to be further addressed.
Spend time: Finding a way to make time for the elderly is always appreciated, Lett says. “Make a plan and offer to pick them up for an outing together,” she explains. “Including them in outings with your family doesn’t cost anything, but can mean the world.” Even something as simple as sending a card or letter lets seniors know you’re thinking of them.
Be thoughtful: She recommends planning around health issues, such as being unable to climb stairs easily or needing to eat at certain times. “Keep mobility issues in mind,” she explains. “Pay attention so you can anticipate things they might need ahead of time and put thought into the process.”
Be present: It’s easy to get swept up in the hustle of the holidays. Lett says it’s not enough just to show up for our seniors – you have to focus and pay attention when you do. “You need to give yourself the gift of slowing down and allowing yourself to give your presence to the people in your life,” she explains.
Choose gifts wisely: Be aware of dietary and lifestyle restrictions when shopping for seniors. Rather than gifting food or beverages they can’t eat, Lett suggests choosing a practical gift that “will go over well,” such as scarves, a blanket or throw, fuzzy slippers or shawls.
Lett says these acts of kindness might start with the holidays, but should extend throughout the year through monthly get-togethers for coffee, dinner, shopping or another activity.
“The sense of knowing we’re making someone else’s life better by including them in activities in our lives will also give us a sense of fulfillment. Contribute something to them since they’ve contributed so much to us. If you do everything around this season, for the rest of the year, there’s that emptiness. Connect with seniors throughout the year.”
For more information about support for people 55 years and older, call 616-913-2006 or visit CareResources.org.
For individuals and organizations looking to make a difference in the lives of veterans this holiday season, consider supporting Michigan Veteran Homes’ Holiday Wish Lists which highlight much-needed items to help veteran members this holiday season.
Donation details
Michigan Veteran Homes at Grand Rapids (MVHGR) is seeking monetary donations to support the charitable support fund which is used to enhance the quality of life for veteran members.
Monetary donations can be made at Support MVH or checks can be written to MVHGR and mailed to 2950 Monroe Ave. NE, Grand Rapids, MI 49505. Please indicate the fund designation “Charitable Support Fund” in the memo section of the check.
The Home is also seeking in-kind donations such as Go!Bus ADA tickets, postage stamps, snacks and adult fishing poles (please limit to four).
Donation drop-off and online options
For more information or to coordinate a time to drop off in-kind donations, please contact Volunteer and Donations Coordinator Gretchen Muir at muirg@michigan.gov or 616-840-3001.
Updated wish list items and donation tips may be viewed online at MVHGR Holiday Wish List. You can also direct ship requested items from the Home’s Amazon Wish List.
Various changes take place as we age, many of them unwanted.
“Things happen to you [during aging], and they don’t happen on your terms,” says Rev. Howard C. Earle Jr., Chaplain and Director of Spiritual Care for Beacon Hill at Eastgate. “As we age, things start to happen – whether we want them to or not.”
For some, holiday celebrations are a time when family members measure the decline in mental and physical health of elderly parents or grandparents. That decline often leads to tough conversations such as: “Dad, it’s time to stop driving – for your safety and others” or “Mom, we don’t need you to host Christmas this year – come to dinner at our house and just enjoy.”
Though these well-intentioned conversations come from a place of caring, Earle says the elderly often do not hear it that way.
Nobody asked me…
Whether our bodies begin to break down and fail, our life partner dies, we slip and fall, or we simply can’t care for ourselves any longer, these changes are out of our control and often frustrating because they can mean having our independence abruptly taken away.
“There was no real outlet where there could be some real transparency and sense of community to process what [the elderly] feel,” says Earle.
Seeing the need for such an outlet, Earle began an ongoing weekly discussion series titled “Nobody Asked Me.”
“We created this space where we could be totally honest about what we feel as we enter into these phases and seasons of life,” says Earle.
For the past two years, Earle has led various discussions on aging each Tuesday morning at 9:30 a.m. Residents talk through their feelings about changes that happen with aging, and feature topics such as health, grief, technology, activities…and holidays.
As we enter the holiday season, Earle is also conducting a special holiday series called Hope for the Holidays. “It’s the same concept,” says Earle. “It’s about processing what they feel regarding anything concerning life.”
Earle leads the discussion with “Nobody asked me…” and then follows it up with an issue such as “…if I wanted to give up my keys.” The discussion then revolves around all things connected to that experience.
A resonating resource
Earle says the weekly discussions are one piece of Beacon Hill programming that has resonated with all residents and become a valuable resource.
Though Earle is a chaplain, he says Nobody Asked Me discussions are not faith-based, intentionally generating conversation from a life perspective.
“It doesn’t matter what your religion is, you get old,” says Earle. “Everybody gets old, and everybody feels some kind of way about getting old.”
Think before speaking
When asked what advice he would give to younger generations as they prepare for family celebrations, Earle says to be patient, intentional and considerate.
“Senior adults need to know that they still matter,” says Earle. “Be intentionally affirming but also be sensitive.”
Earle cautions against generalizing the elderly by labeling them mean or grumpy. Instead, be mindful of what it might feel like to not see or hear well, making it difficult to feel part of the surrounding conversations and festivities.
“Be as thoughtful as you can…and try to be open to what some of these realities are.”
Live life on your terms
Each week, Earle reminds residents that they are alive – and encourages them to live life on their own terms by taking advantage of opportunities such as exploring, investing in new relationships and learning new things.
“Rather than thinking of senior living as waiting until you die, think of it as living until you do,” says Earle. “You get to decide what living will look like.
“Living is going to look different for every person, but some things are going to be fundamental: remain relational, stay engaged, don’t isolate, don’t withdraw, have fun, laugh, learn. Those are things that I believe enrich life and make life worth living.”
Beyond the telltale tremors, stiffness and slow or involuntary movements, Parkinson’s disease can cause a slew of symptoms that impact quality of life.
While it can vary for every person, this neurodegenerative disorder can cause everything from dementia, depression and anxiety to insomnia, hallucinations and blood pressure changes.
“It can be an ugly disease that feels so unfair to the patient and their loved ones,” says Julie Chambers, a nurse case manager with Emmanuel Hospice. “It can affect a lot of things in our daily lives that we take for granted like walking, feeding ourselves and recognizing our loved ones. We also often see social isolation and feelings of embarrassment or frustration take root as these symptoms develop.”
While medications are available to lessen symptoms, there is no cure or therapy to stop or slow the progression. Swallowing difficulties that can cause aspiration and pneumonia, as well as the risk of falling become of particular concern in the advanced stages.
With November being National Hospice and Palliative Care Month, Chambers wants to educate the community on how hospice can help with this and other life-limiting diseases. Hospice services can enhance quality of life, support caregivers and help keep patients at home.
Working in collaboration with the patient’s neurologist, Chambers says hospice can help manage Parkinson’s symptoms and provide additional support to give more peace of mind to everyone involved.
“We work closely with the neurologists sharing the goal of keeping patients comfortable,” she says. “We agree, ‘it’s not my patient, it’s our patient.’ We keep each other updated while navigating changes in the patient’s needs.”
Beyond medication management, Chambers says hospice can bring in practical items that help people with Parkinson’s be more independent and safer in their own home while receiving end-of-life care. This may include specialized walkers, Hoyer lifts, weighted utensils, bed and chair alarms, bedside commodes, fall mats and adjustable hospital beds.
Another benefit of hospice for Parkinson’s patients includes in-home support with the help of aides who can assist with activities of daily living that can become difficult like bathing, dressing, eating and using the bathroom.
People with Parkinson’s may become restless in the middle of the night or otherwise have difficulty sleeping. This can result in a potential fall and other concerns at any hour. While not all hospices offer 24-hour support, Emmanuel Hospice has a full-time extended care team of nurses who work around the clock to help answer questions over the phone and can see patients for any urgent medical needs on nights and weekends.
The nonprofit also offers complementary therapies and services that can help lessen pain and loosen muscles, such as massage therapy, acupressure and acupuncture. Pet visitors, volunteers and art activities also are used to bring emotional support, joy and companionship to patients who may have withdrawn from social functions as symptoms worsened. Essential oils can be used to bring peace with calming scents and a relaxing rotation of lights.
Supporting family members who often overlook their own health and wellbeing while taking care of a seriously ill loved one is just as important to the hospice care team, Chambers says.
“We can bring in additional emotional support through our grief support team, understanding that feelings of loss start long before the patient passes away,” she says. “This helps loved ones process everything they’re going through and learn about stress reduction and self-care.”
Parkinson’s can bring on sudden and drastic health changes and sometimes severe psychosis in patients that can be distressing to the family, Chambers adds.
“In these times, I like to assure families there’s little our team hasn’t seen before. We come in calm and ready to help with any situation” she says. “Our services are designed to support the mind, body and spirit through all the changes that can come from this disease through the end of life.”
Wyoming resident Ryan Gadberry served four years (2013-2017) in the U.S. Marines. While no longer on active-duty, the local veteran continues serving by bringing comfort and recognition to hospice veterans during their end-of-life journey.
Already serving as Property Manager for Hospice of Michigan, Gadberry stepped in to help when he heard Hospice of Michigan needed veteran volunteers.
For the past eight months, Gadberry has used his military experiences to make a meaningful impact.
“I am more than happy to give back,” said Gadberry. “It’s very heartwarming; it makes you feel like you’re doing something really important.”
Camaraderie and compassion
Hospice of Michigan strives to deliver the holistic, loving care veterans deserve. Veteran volunteers make a difference in the lives of others by sitting and visiting with fellow veteran patients.
Gadberry said there is a specific connection between veterans due to shared military training and history.
“You can meet a total stranger and, once you find out they are a fellow service person, there is an immediate connection,” said Gadberry. “You’re no longer a stranger.”
That connection has been frequently proven, but one instance made a lasting impact on Hospice of Michigan Volunteer Program Manager, Lauren Becker-Barkman.
A lifelong Marine within hours of the end of his life journey was restless, repeatedly reaching and calling out.
“There was no peace in this man’s world at this time,” said Becker-Barkman. “He’s uncomfortable, he’s restless.”
The hospice team asked a veteran volunteer to sit with the veteran in hopes of making a difference in his end-of-life journey.
“By the time [the volunteer] left,” said Becker-Barkman, “he was comfortable, he was at peace. He wasn’t calling out, he wasn’t reaching out.”
The veteran passed within a few hours – and what was said during that time together remains unknown.
“We don’t know what was said or what passed between these two veterans, but whatever it was allowed this man to find peace and to be able to go on peacefully,” said Becker-Barkman. “That’s the kind of connection you can’t make up. The impact is immeasurable.”
Gadberry personally cultivates that special connection with hospice veterans through empathy and understanding.
A desire to serve
A first-generation serviceman in his family, Gadberry always knew he wanted to be a Marine.
“Even when I was a kid, that was the plan. Finish high school, join the Marines. That’s what I did.”
Gadberry served as an intelligence analyst, working with several overseas ops – and has no regrets.
“I love that I did it; it definitely turned me into the man I am today.”
And that man gets a visible bounce in his step when meeting fellow veterans.
An unexpected impact
“He gets a little pep in his step knowing that he’s going to meet a veteran,” said Becker-Barkman, adding that Gadberry is also asked to read poems or talk about the impact of veteran connections often. “He’s incredibly humble about being a veteran himself…so to know that he’s also getting some recognition and that he’s continuing to make an impact, it’s really cool.”
Gadberry said that volunteering has impacted him in ways he didn’t expect – especially the pinning ceremonies.
“What surprised me was the impact it has on the families,” said Gadberry. “It’s overwhelming to see. It’s important to make that veteran feel remembered and seen, but they’re on their end-of-life journey, they’re going to be gone soon. But that ceremony, and those memories, are going to be passed on and kept with the family members for many years to come.”
Though many veterans are recognized for their service through their communities, American Legion or VFW, there are just as many who never see recognition of any kind. Gadberry said giving that recognition to veterans during the last steps of their end-of-life journey is memorable for all involved.
“Every ceremony, every event is completely different,” said Gadberry. “Every time I do it, I take away something different and I learn a little bit more.”
Becker-Barkman said her time with Hospice of Michigan has also been life-changing.
“I’ve learned so much about end-of-life care and what that entails for us as human beings,” said Becker-Barkman. “I get to be surrounded by so many brilliant, loving, giving people that it’s changed my entire outlook on everything.
“It’s magical to be surrounded by people who are so willing to show up for people they don’t know at what can be the hardest time in their life; it’s rejuvenating.”
The value of serving in new ways
Hospice of Michigan is continually in need of compassionate veteran volunteers to provide that much needed support and camaraderie to hospice veterans. Regardless of how they served, the bond between veterans opens a door of trust and communication through mutual understanding.
“Veterans share a unique bond,” said Kathy Lietaert, Hospice of Michigan Statewide Volunteer Program Manager, in supplied material. “Through our veterans hospice program, every act of service by volunteer veterans brings comfort, connection and compassion to hospice veterans who need it most at the end of life.”
Becker-Barkman said they are always looking for more volunteer support, in Grand Rapids and throughout the state – and their volunteering schedule is flexible.
“You could [visit] one patient a month, visit once a week, or whatever fits your schedule,” said Becker-Barkman. “We don’t have any rigid guidelines. We want volunteers to be able to fit this into their lives in a way that’s meaningful and not overwhelming for them.”
Volunteer orientations are hosted on an as-needed basis so prospective volunteers can learn in their own time. Training or previous volunteer experience is not needed. All veterans willing to donate their time and companionship to hospice care patients are welcome.
Gadberry believes that veterans will step in to help once they are aware of the need.
“I was more than happy to help out,” said Gadberry. “I think that will be the case for other veterans out there. If they hear that another veteran needs some form of help, they will always step up.”
Learn more!
Prospective volunteers can contact Lauren Becker-Barkman at 616-250-9110 or lbecker-barkman@hom.org.
Learn more about Hospice of Michigan and submit an online volunteer application here.
From tornadoes and flash flooding to ice storms to snowpocalypses, Michiganders are no strangers to severe weather – but not all are always prepared for it. For older adults, especially those who live alone, proper planning is critically important.
Tom Muszynski, chief operating officer of Care Resources, a community-based program helping people 55 years and older, knows first-hand the level of prep that’s needed for this population. When the forecast is severe, he leads a thorough process of evaluating and prioritizing participants’ health and safety.
“We pull together our whole team, including physicians, nurses, social workers, home healthcare aides, bus drivers and more, to talk through the unique needs of every participant in our program,” Muszynski explains. “We consider who has urgent appointments they cannot miss, like dialysis, and then back fill from there to make sure every person has what they need.”
The team then works to get enough supplies and meals out to participants ahead of the storm and arranges for transportation as necessary. They think through any medical equipment that may need electricity and what backups, like oxygen tanks, can be in place in case of a power outage. Medications are delivered to make sure doses are not missed.
“The interdisciplinary team is the ‘secret sauce’ of our program with how well they know our participants and the breadth of experience they have to assist with a variety of health needs,” Muszynski notes. “Our participants and their caregivers take an active role in the process, too.”
Planning further in advance for harsh winter weather is equally important. Muszynski says now is the time to assess home safety needs like ramps, snow removal and HVAC tuneups, in addition to taking illness prevention measures with vaccine clinics and good hand hygiene.
“These are all things we regularly help our participants with,” he says. “As a Program of All-inclusive Care for the Elderly, we’re equipped to help with a wide range of services even during times of heavy snowfall and frigid temps.”
For those who are not eligible for the program, Muszynski says there are more community resources that can help.
“Kent County is rich in services for seniors through the Older Americans Act and Kent County Senior Millage,” he says. “Outside of Kent County, support is also available through Heart of West Michigan United Way and local commissions on aging.”
In addition to taking advantage of community resources and programs like Care Resources, Muszynski recommends preparing for winter by:
Creating an emergency kit with enough medication, food and water for multiple days.
Stocking your vehicle with a shovel, broom/scraper, blanket and flashlight.
Having a snow removal plan to maintain ice-free pathways.
Keeping your home well-lit during dark winter mornings and evenings to reduce fall risk.
Keeping warm indoors with a working furnace and weather-sealed windows and doors.
Wearing winter clothing and boots when outdoors to stay warm and dry.
Getting vaccinated and washing hands frequently to protect against seasonal illnesses.
Staying aware of weather alerts and forecasts.
Fully charging cell phones to stay informed and connected during power outages.
For more information on healthy and independent living for people 55 years and older, call 616-913-2006 or visit CareResources.org.
Michigan Veteran Homes at Grand Rapids (MVHGR), in partnership with Zero Day, will host their Veterans Day 5 Remembrance 0.5-Mile Walk/Roll, 5K, and 5-Mile Run on Nov. 9 at 2950 Monroe Ave. NE.
Event check-in will begin at 7:15 a.m. The Kent County Honor Guard will present the colors while Army Veteran Danielle Engle sings the national anthem. The 5-mile run will begin at 8:30 a.m., followed by the 5K at 8:50 a.m., and the 0.5-mile remembrance walk at 9 a.m.
Registration for the race is currently open and will accommodate walk-ups the morning of the event. To register, click Veterans Day 5. Please enter off Monroe Avenue NE and follow signs for parking and check-in.
“We are always seeking opportunities to enrich the lives of the veteran members living at the Home as well as providing ways for the greater community of Grand Rapids to engage with veteran members,” said Ryan Engle, Director of Development and Strategic Engagement for Michigan Veteran Homes (MVH).
“The funds raised through the event will support the charitable support fund that provides therapeutic and leisure activities for every veteran member we have the honor and privilege to care for.”
Participants, volunteers and spectators are invited to join veteran members and staff in the Home’s bistro for the SpartanNash Community Pancake Breakfast from 9 – 11:30 a.m. Race participants, volunteers and veteran members will receive a complimentary breakfast courtesy of SpartanNash, while guests are asked to make a minimum $5 donation to MVHGR.
Zero Day will donate 100% of event proceeds and donations to MVHGR following the event.
Sponsorship and giving opportunities
Those interested in sponsorship opportunities for the Veterans Day 5, please email dmva-mvhgiving@michigan.gov.
In support of life enrichment activities that improve the quality of life for members, the Home is seeking monetary donations. Monetary donations can be made on-site by cash or check during the race, online at Michigan Veteran Homes – Make a Gift, or via checks made out to MVHGR and mailed to 2950 Monroe Ave. NE, Grand Rapids, MI 49505.
This year’s race is supported by Zero Day, SpartanNash, myTeam Triumph – Michigan Chapter, The McGraw Family and Village Caregiving.
While fall brings with it sweaters, corn mazes and all things pumpkin spice, it also marks a peak in respiratory virus illnesses.
As the new season begins, Care Resources Clinical Quality Manager Bethany Graham says now is a serious time to focus on illness prevention, particularly for older adults.
“Every year in the fall, we start seeing an increase in influenza and COVID in the U.S.,” says Graham, who oversees infection control for Care Resources, a community-based program that serves people 55 years and older. “Flu and COVID are viral illnesses that impact everyone differently depending on age and different risk factors.
“For our more frail, medically complex elderly population, these viruses can be really detrimental, so it’s important older adults – and those who care for them – work diligently to avoid illness each year.”
Medical professionals strongly recommend updated flu and COVID vaccines each fall to provide protection through the winter season when those viruses are more widespread in the community.
While the vaccines don’t fully prevent people from contracting the flu or COVID, Graham says they do significantly decrease the severity of symptoms and the risk of hospitalization – or worse – for vulnerable populations.
“Where grandkids and other family members may be sick for just few days and then recover, for unprotected older adults, getting the flu or COVID could result in hospitalization and severe complications like pneumonia or death,” Graham says. “Staying up to date on recommended vaccines can help prevent those complications. That is why older adults in particular should get vaccinated each fall.”
To help those who are hesitant to get vaccinated, Graham and her team work to educate the community about common myths.
“To be clear: You cannot get the flu or COVID from vaccines. That’s simply not how it works. It is not possible,” she says. “We also want people to understand that some side effects are completely normal and temporary – things such as soreness or pain at the injection site, fatigue, even a low-grade fever – it’s just your body reacting to the vaccine, which is a good thing. Side effects should only last two or three days at most.”
What else can caregivers of older adults be doing to help prepare for flu season? Graham says keeping open lines of communication about how everyone is feeling is key.
“First and foremost, get into the habit of talking about any symptoms they’re having,” she says. “If they are not feeling well, make sure they’re not going near loved ones – and the other way around.
“Get comfortable having discussions about illnesses and symptoms before visits to avoid contact with family members who are sick.”
As the holiday season nears, Graham urges everyone to take personal responsibility of not spreading any illness.
“If you are not feeling well, be honest about your symptoms and don’t visit grandma and grandpa,” she says. “It’s not worth the risk.”
If contact cannot be avoided, particularly for caregivers of older adults, Graham recommends wearing a mask.
“I like to remind people masks are not a COVID-specific tool,” she says. “If you’re not feeling well but need to be around a loved one, wearing a mask will decrease the risk of giving any illness to them and vice versa.”
Handwashing also is very important – especially after coughing or sneezing and before eating. Graham recommends “really ramping up hand washing even more than you might normally do” in fall and winter.
Actual hand washing with hand soap and water is best, but hand sanitizer is better than nothing – and sometimes easier in certain caregiver situations.
“If your loved one has dementia, offering hand-washing reminders can be really helpful,” she adds. “And just modeling it yourself, making it the norm.”
Additionally, Graham says to keep up with regular cleaning and disinfection of high-touch surfaces, such as door handles, bed rails and cane walkers.
Care Resources offers a variety of medical care and home health services, including vaccine clinics for participants, to help older adults stay healthy and independent. To learn more, visit CareResources.org or call 616-913-2006.
To be considered for the honor, organizations needed to be Great Place To Work-Certified™, have under 1,000 employees and provide senior housing or care. To determine the rankings, FORTUNE and Great Places to Work analyzed survey feedback from more than 181,000 U.S. employees on issues from pay and benefits to personal development opportunities and collegiality.
In the past year, Great Place To Work surveyed companies employing 8.2 million people in the U.S. and received 1.3 million survey responses. Of those, over 181,002 responses were received from employees at companies who were eligible for the 2024 Fortune Best Workplaces in Aging Services list.
National recognition – in triplicate!
This is the third national recognition for Beacon Hill in recent months.
“We are as dedicated to supporting our staff as we are to serving our residents,” President and CEO Jeffrey Huegli said. “We believe each and every employee is a valuable and integral part of our community’s well-being.
“This award underscores our commitment to our team and to creating an exceptional work environment. We are again delighted to receive national recognition in our industry.”
Heart and hospitality
Beacon Hill at Eastgate is a distinctive, nonprofit, continuing care retirement community nestled in the established and vibrant Eastgate neighborhood. The retirement community offers residents a host of tasteful living and care options, including independent living, assisted living, memory care and skilled nursing. The nonprofit also provides rehabilitation services.
Beacon Hill hires for heart and talent – its team of approachable, passionate experts not only provides the highest level of hospitality but also emotional connections, spiritual support and resources residents can use to flourish in their homes and live independently.
The nonprofit helps residents feel at home by giving them access to a variety of on-site amenities that include four restaurants with weekly rotating menus, an indoor pool and state-of-the-art fitness center, art and exercise classes, community gardens and walking paths.
To learn more about Beacon Hill at Eastgate, click here.
For retired nurse Amy Lyons, being a volunteer for Emmanuel Hospice continues her lifelong pursuit of caring for others.
As a patient/family support volunteer, she’s at the bedside of a hospice patient providing comfort and peaceful companionship through the end of their life. Sometimes she talks with patients or reads to them, other times she’s more of a calming presence while she holds their hand or crochets a lap blanket.
“I was always taught the Holy Spirit will tell you what you need to do,” she says. “I can’t necessarily provide physical care as a volunteer, and as a former nurse, it’s hard not to help, but you find other ways to support. I’ll play music, hold their hand – whatever makes them comfortable.”
As she leaves a session with a patient, which normally lasts an hour to 90 minutes, she likes to ask if there’s anything she can bring them next time – something that brings them joy.
“One lady said sunflowers,” Lyons recalls. “Well, it was too early for real sunflowers, so I brought artificial ones. I explained this to her, and she said, ‘why yes, it is too early’ and then proceeded to tell me all about growth of sunflowers.
“I believe every patient always has something to teach you. If nothing else, it’s how to die with grace – all of them have been at peace in the end and that makes me happy.”
Lyons has been with several patients in their final moments in what’s known as “sitting vigil” – being at the bedside during someone’s last days or hours as they’re actively dying.
“I find it so rewarding,” she says. “People often ask how can you do that? And I can’t tell them enough what an honor it is to go and be selected to be with a person until their final breath.”
While most vigils last a few hours, the first patient she sat vigil with lasted nine days. She chose to be there with him for three to four hours a night, and when he passed, “It was a relief for both of us.”
“I thought, ‘he’s comfortable now,’ ” she remembers. “That is all I ever want to see, that you’re comfortable with where you’re heading. I tell patients, ‘no matter what you think or what you’ve done or haven’t done, it’s OK. You don’t have to be afraid.’ And for some, it seems that’s all they needed to hear – that it’s all going to be OK.”
Lyons also is a spiritual director trained by the Dominican Center in Grand Rapids, so she brings a spiritual side to her hospice volunteer work.
Lyons and her husband, who also is a spiritual director, have curated a library full of spiritual texts to better understand other belief systems and to offer readings that will resonate best with each individual patient.
“Figuring out what faith care they would like, and how to honor that is important to me,” she says.
One of her favorite tools for helping patients feel more comfortable and to open up about their life story is a book that contains a series of questions a father would typically answer for his own kids.
“I’ll look in the book and ask something like, ‘What’s your fondest memory of your grandkids?’ or ‘What do you remember about your grandma?’ and that usually gets people talking,” she says. “I’ll share about my life, too. I explain that being a nurse is very physical work, but I can sit and I can talk to them and hold their hand. I can’t care for them the way I used to, but now I can care for their spirits.
“I would never hesitate to volunteer again. If I knew how rewarding it would be, I would have become a hospice volunteer sooner in my life.”
Emmanuel Hospice is always looking for volunteers in the greater Grand Rapids area to provide companionship and support to patients. The nonprofit matches the unique skills and interests of prospective volunteers with the right opportunity, ensuring each volunteer receives a tailored area of assignment. More information can be found at EmmanuelHospice.org/volunteer.
Each time Kaitlyn Dawson has lost a patient, she takes the time to draw a flower commemorating the time and space the two enjoyed together and to honor a life well-lived. Her bittersweet bouquet includes some 200 flowers to date.
In her role as education manager for Emmanuel Hospice, Dawson believes that taking the time to memorialize and remember someone who dies is a productive way to deal with grief. She shares her sentiments with others who work on behalf of Emmanuel to help patients through their respective transitions.
“It’s adopting a rhythm and a practice that engages the grief and embraces the life someone led,” says Dawson, who worked many years as a social worker. “It doesn’t have to be drawing a flower, though. It can be virtually anything – lighting a candle, saying a prayer, writing in a journal.”
The key, she notes, is to “establish a practice of tangibly acknowledging their place and our own place in this world, and commemorating something – someone – we’ve lost.”
Dawson moves through her drawings and comes upon one of a hydrangea: “Every time I look at this, it makes me think of Carol,” she says. “I remember my time with her. I remember her smile and how loving she was. I remember how she always greeted me with a hug, no matter what the day was like or what was going on.”
Dawson doesn’t spend time ascribing a certain flower to each person. She picks the flowers at random. “It’s more about the practice of doing it. I use pen and pencil and pastels and crayons. I use simple notebook paper. It’s easy and affordable and yet, it matters.”
Dawson majored in art while in college, and initially had planned to specialize in ceramics before pivoting into social work. But she emphasizes that you don’t have to have a special talent to memorialize someone.
“Start with something that is most meaningful to you – music, words, a place. Think about how to share that in a special time and space. How can I create a rhythm or practice that honors that person? Simply putting thoughts down on paper – perhaps by writing a letter they’ll obviously never see – has power.”
Dawson references the picture boards we assemble for the funeral home and laments how after the service “suddenly, they’re gone.” But a lasting memorial or practice is a way to honor that person as often as every day and offers ways to create something that grows and lasts.
Even taking a 10-minute walk while remembering someone is a way to make a difference in a purposeful manner: “The practice of connecting the emotion and feeling to a physical act is what’s important – and in that respect, the sky’s the limit.”
“Grief,” says Dawson, “is an important emotion we need to protect, because it never leaves us and is always evolving. Our lives transform around it. When we honor our grief by paying attention to and holding space for it, we have the opportunity to find new ways to love the ones we’ve lost.”
For more information about Emmanuel Hospice, call 616-719-0919 or visit emmanuelhospice.org
Imagine having a medical need, and instead of enduring a long wait at urgent care or the emergency room, you visit a clinic where you’re seen within minutes. You’re diagnosed and then provided everything from an IV to wound care to lab work to meds and more.
You’re referred, as needed, to a social worker, therapist or any number of other health professionals. And you don’t pay a dime.
It’s not make believe.
You’re inside the clinic at Care Resources, a community-based program for adults 55 and older that promotes healthy, independent living and helps people avoid nursing home placement. It’s available to those who meet the nursing facility level of care established by the state of Michigan.
The clinic, located in Grand Rapids at Care Resources headquarters at 4150 Kalamazoo Avenue SE, boasts a medical team of seven primary providers, as well as a host of nurses, therapists and clinicians who treat participants on site and are equipped to address everything from hangnails to heart issues.
“We have a lot of resources right here at our fingertips,” says Nancy Baker, a registered nurse, clinic and day center manager, “and we’re able to serve them quickly and help them avoid trips to the ER.”
Laura Hall, a nurse practitioner and associate clinic director, notes: “They walk in, fill out a form and they’re seen often immediately by a doctor, a physician’s assistant or a nurse practitioner. A lot of our participants are amazed at the level of care – and the continuity of care.”
The Care Resources medical team collaborates closely with social workers, pharmacists, dietitians, transportation workers and others – all on-site – to make sure the participant is getting critical follow-up care as well.
Indeed, the entire Care Resources staff at the Kalamazoo Avenue address is trained to safeguard all its participants, many of whom visit the facility’s day center and spend time there eating, socializing and taking part in organized programs and activities like bingo and group games.
“Our day staff is really good at letting us know if something is changing or something is wrong with one of our participants,” Hall says. “We’re good at recognizing needs.”
At Care Resources, the aim is to “centralize care,” says Hall, although it doesn’t stop there. It includes being purposeful about communicating with participants’ guardians and caregivers as well, spending time on the phone to fill them in or inviting them to attend appointments to serve as a second set of eyes and ears.
Health care is also extended to participants in the comfort of their homes, where they can qualify for physical and occupational therapy, visits from a social worker or nurse, and help with anything from light housework to meal and grocery delivery – anything that eases their burden and helps promote a healthy lifestyle.
The clinic is open weekdays from 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. A primary care provider is on call evenings, weekends and holidays.
“The responsibility is on us to deliver their care,” Hall says. “And our goal is to always spend quality time with every participant. “So we’re never in a rush. And there’s never a wait.”
For more information about Care Resources, call 616-913-2006 or visit HERE
For the better part of 30 years, Don Walsh worked as a friendly sleuth.
That’s what good librarians do, after all. They discover things on behalf of others.
Now, at the age of 84, the tables have turned and it’s Emmanuel Hospice serving him.
And for that, Don is especially grateful and embraces any opportunity to share details about his relationship with the Grand Rapids-based health care provider.
“This particular hospice and its people go out of their way to make it special,” he says. “They believe in what they’re doing, and it’s a privilege for me to tell their story through me.”
Don was born and raised until the age of 14 in Traverse City, and in moving to Grand Rapids, grew to love what he now considers “a great place to be.”
As a youngster, he pedaled newspapers for the Grand Rapids Herald and Press – and before that, the Record-Eagle in TC – and later worked for his father, who owned a dime store in Wyoming called Wyoming Variety.
As a teen, he became interested in collecting things – baseball cards, stamps, coins – and at age 19 actually tried his hand at owning a hobby store, a venture that lasted but four months.
Eventually, he graduated from Aquinas College, and it’s there he met the love of his life, wife Kathie, with whom he raised five children. Don and Kathie live together with a 30-year-old grandson.
Don’s first jobs after college included teaching school in the Detroit area, but he remembers thinking “It was silly to stay there because we both loved Grand Rapids so much,” and they returned to settle in Eastown. He became involved in neighborhood issues to such a degree that he became the first chairperson of the Eastown Community Association. He and Kathie are long-time parishioners at St. Andrew’s Cathedral.
Professionally, he made his biggest mark with the Grand Rapids Public Library, splitting a 30-year career between the main site downtown and the Ottawa Hills branch.
In 2010, Don had heart bypass surgery, and four years later endured a stomach tumor and then prostate cancer. Around 2018, he began experiencing shortness of breath. Nearly two years ago, he was admitted to Emmanuel Hospice after being informed that he likely had less than a year to live.
Don says his time with the Emmanuel team has been “a remarkable season of working together, and there has never been a question of how much they care.”
He’s grateful for the ways in which Emmanuel lifts up Kathie as well as their children and grandchildren, “reassuring them all and helping them through the hard parts.” He particularly appreciated the support that allowed him to attend ArtPrize and see his daughter, Sara’s exhibit, with both comfort and peace of mind.
Emmanuel Hospice relies on an interdisciplinary team, with patients like Don and his family at its center, as it works to enhance the lives of those facing serious, life-limiting illnesses.
The interdisciplinary team brings together the appropriate medical providers, along with a social worker, home health aides, spiritual care counselors, complementary therapy specialists, volunteers, bereavement counselors and others to ensure all needs are met.
Don enjoys regular visits from his Emmanuel care team. His first encounter was with an intake specialist, who helped him understand his options going forward. Then he saw a social worker, who helped him sort through some red tape involving a hospital bill.
He occasionally requests time with a spiritual adviser, who helps him “talk things through about my life, my life after, and anything I want to have a dialogue about.”
Twice a week, an aide visits and, depending on the need, will bathe him, shave him and tend to other affairs of daily living. Once every two weeks, he receives massage therapy, which helps comfort the after-effects of a recent fall he incurred. Weekly, a nurse visits and helps him manage his medications and troubleshoots any new developments.
Receiving care in his home “is so much more than simply receiving services,” he says. “They’re there not only sharing their lives with you, but helping you along a tough journey. I know it’s a business, but that’s not what they ever project. It’s more of a mission.
“People,” says Don, “get the crazy idea that hospice is about dying. But it’s about living. And it’s about taking the time to relax and have someone care for you in such generous ways. This particular hospice goes out of its way to make that special.”
For more about Emmanuel Hospice, call 616-719-0919 or visit emmanuelhospice.org
Diane Gaston knows what it’s like to be part of the so-called “sandwich generation” because she juggled a full-time job along with serving as caregiver to both her own children and her aging mother at the same time.
In her case, she embraced it all as acts of love and wouldn’t have changed a thing.
But for some of the estimated 40 million Americans who are unpaid caregivers to their parents – and sometimes their kids simultaneously – it can exact a toll on their physical and mental health.
There are ways to enlist help, including tapping into the resources of Care Resources, a Grand Rapids-based program for qualifying people 55 and older who want healthy, independent living options without being placed into a nursing home.
It’s open to residents of Kent and parts of Allegan, Barry, Ionia and Ottawa counties who meet state of Michigan nursing facility-level of care and are able to live safely in the community with assistance.
Participants can take advantage of a wide array of services provided at the Care Resources day center, which houses a full-service clinic and pharmacy. Participants can also access services in their homes and through a network of community providers – ultimately easing the burden experienced by adult children serving in that caregiver role.
“Our goal is to keep people out of nursing homes and in their own homes for as long as possible,” says CEO Tracey McKnight, noting 11 interdisciplinary services are made available to all participants – “everything from primary care to rehab services to help with transportation, nutrition, meds and much more.”
Gaston knows this firsthand, as she’s employed by Care Resources as a personal care attendant, specializing in providing showers to participants at the day center at 4150 Kalamazoo Ave. SE.
She and her husband, Tim, have three children, two of whom still live with them in their Grand Rapids home. Their responsibilities increased a few years ago when Diane’s mother, Leola, grew more dependent, with Diane insisting that she not ever enter a nursing facility.
Eventually, Leola moved in with Diane and family. Diane maintains “I got frustrated with her medical condition (diabetes, dementia and kidney failure) but never my mother.”
When Leola, who worked many years in valet laundry at the Amway Grand Plaza Hotel, would fantasize she was still there and start sorting through her clothing, Diane knew enough to play along: “It was easier to be in her world than trying to take her out of it.”
Even with the challenges, Diane says she now has “treasured memories” of caring for her mother until the very end, taking solace in how she was beside her mother “when she took her last breath.”
Diane’s advice for others who find themselves part of the sandwich generation? “It doesn’t hurt to step away. Separate yourself from time to time and laugh or cry your way through it. If you’re dealing with dementia, realize that person is no longer who they used to be, and you may now have to treat them like a child, but always remember the love.”
If your loved one qualifies for a program like Care Resources, she says, consider the option, because it can reduce the toll exacted on those providing care, which is vital for one’s mental health.
Leola Gaston passed in May 2022. Even now, Diane can still see her, still hear her singing hymns like those she lifted up while a member of Mt. Zion Missionary Baptist Church in Grand Rapids. And she can still sense her mother’s presence, just like all those years Leola spent raising Diane and three other children by herself, the result of Leola losing her husband in an automobile accident when she was yet a young wife and mother.
Diane’s mother’s journey was “a lot,” says Diane. But she was never overwhelmed into regretting her decision to care for her. In the end, Leola didn’t call Diane by her given name, but instead “that lady.”
Which was OK with Diane. As long as they were able to be together.
For more about Care Resources, call 616-913-2006, or visit careresources.org
Beacon Hill at Eastgate is inviting community members of all ages to enjoy a lineup of local musicians and creative meals during its eighth annual Concerts on the Green series.
Made possible by the Beacon Hill Foundation, the concerts begin at 7 p.m. on the second Wednesday of the month July through September on the front lawn at Beacon Hill at Eastgate. The concerts are free and open to the community.
“The Concerts on the Green series allows us to carry out the Beacon Hill Foundation’s mission to cultivate care and community by bringing home world-renowned talent for residents, their loved ones and members of the Eastgate neighborhood to enjoy together,” Beacon Hill Foundation Director Libby Wahlstrom said.
“This much-loved event is one we look forward to every summer, and we can’t wait to gather as a community to soak up the tunes of some of Grand Rapids’ favorite local musicians, enjoy wonderful meals prepared by our award-winning chefs and make memories we’ll be reminiscing for the rest of the year.”
Sept. 11 – John Nowak Trio performing traditional rock and alternative.
Concertgoers are encouraged to bring a blanket or lawn chair. Limited on-site parking is available; carpooling is encouraged.
Beacon Hill’s food truck, The Traveling Plate, will offer a rotating menu of delicious meals and refreshments for purchase from 5:30-8 p.m.
All meals prepared by The Traveling Plate are carefully curated using fresh ingredients from Beacon Hill’s half-acre community garden and local purveyors. To stay up to date on the rotating menu and schedule, visit The Traveling Plate’s Instagram page.
“We put as much dedication into preparing our meals as we do caring for our residents, and our food truck allows us to further share our passion for culinary excellence,” Executive Chef Luke Theaker said.
“With a rotating menu of carefully curated meals, concertgoers are sure to enjoy a variety of options with as much soul as the musicians.”
Beacon Hill at Eastgate is a distinctive, nonprofit, continuing care retirement community in the Eastgate neighborhood.
The nonprofit offers personalized care for the mind, body and spirit to ensure residents can lead a healthy, fulfilling lifestyle while enjoying retirement.
For more information on Concerts on the Green, click here.
You feel like you’re in the middle of an old-fashioned taffy pull – being stretched at both ends and there’s no way out.
Welcome to the “sandwich generation,” which finds you caring not only for your own children, but also your parents or in-laws or a complicated combination.
“It’s a lot of juggling at both ends – caring for your own children and/or grandchildren, but also making time for mom or dad and the changing needs they have as they age,” says Jan Amato, business development specialist for Emmanuel Hospice. “One minute, you’re making lunches for your school-age kids, and in the next, you’re arranging all kinds of medical appointments for your parents.
“There could be as many as four generations involved at once, and there you are, trying to keep everyone happy and healthy.”
The accompanying challenge: Dealing with a heavy dose of stress if you’re the designated driver for all those people looking to you for everything from meals to transportation to housing to emotional, physical and spiritual needs. Add in a serious, life-limiting illness, and it can feel entirely overwhelming.
In her capacity at Emmanuel Hospice, Amato has seen first-hand the effects of those stress-inducing conditions, and notes how Emmanuel is equipped to help not only its patients, but their family members cope and develop strategies for challenges posed by being caught up at both ends.
“A cardinal rule,” she emphasizes, “is regularly carving out some time for yourself, even if it’s a half hour to read, take a bath or work on a project, or just sit quietly and take in the present.
“You need to find something that’s enjoyable to you, and then take the time to do it, and without taking that phone call.”
Amato also has personal experience with the juggling act of the sandwich generation. Her father-in-law is located in Ohio, while Amato and her husband still reside in Michigan. To help care for him, her husband and his siblings take turns visiting. But Amato says it’s typical for one sibling to absorb more responsibility for mom or dad, and that can lead to stress and friction.
“We try to walk that journey with the patient and their family, and a lot of times there are multiple family members expressing different opinions on how that journey should look.”
Amato says it’s important for caregivers to develop a self-care strategy that includes:
Building a strong support system.
Setting aside time for self-care and staying engaged with your hobbies and interests.
Not discounting what others can do; lean on your network and be willing to delegate.
Keeping priorities organized.
National platforms like CaringBridge also offer helpful resources for navigating challenges of being a caregiver with tools to help you share and communicate updates with loved ones, as well as ask for and receive support.
“At Emmanuel Hospice, we’re qualified to connect people with professionals who specialize in counseling that helps those who might feel overwhelmed as a caregiver at both ends,” Amato says. “People need to know it’s OK to have that third party intervene.”
Indeed, there’s “no place like home.” But when home becomes a difficult place to navigate, that’s when a partner like Care Resources can provide peace of mind — and they’ll come to your doorstep to make it happen.
“Our approach ensures that you’re going to be comfortable and safe in your home,” says Barb Scothorn, an intake, enrollment and home care manager at Care Resources, which provides wraparound support services to hundreds of qualifying adults 55 and older living in Kent and parts of surrounding counties.
With its headquarters and day center located in Grand Rapids at 4150 Kalamazoo Ave. SE, Care Resources offers in-home options that include medical care, prescription help, dietary advice, transportation needs, physical and occupational therapy and much more.
“Our goal is to help people avoid nursing facilities,” says Scothorn, who emphasizes that an entire team works as one to create the best-case solutions for participants, based on their specific needs and wants.
“Our participants tend to join for one of two main reasons,” she says. “One is to secure transportation to and from Care Resources’ Day center and to medical-related appointments addressing general health, dental and vision needs. The other is to lean on Care Resources to help participants safely remain in their own homes for as long as possible.”
Toward that end, Care Resources relies initially on medical social workers and registered nurses, who are typically the first to enter a home and make assessments. They then enlist other members of the team, who also weigh in with options to make living easier and safer for the participant.
Those might include:
Changing up the interior of the home to remove throw rugs, improve lighting, and clear rooms, walkways and stairways of clutter.
Performing light housework like washing clothes, dusting, vacuuming and cleaning bathrooms.
Throwing out expired food, arranging delivery of meals and advising on dietary needs.
Providing hygiene and other personal care.
Installing grab bars, raised toilet seats and other adaptive measures.
Care Resources also leans on a digital communication tool called “care.coach,” which enables participants and Care Resources staff members to “talk” with one another using avatars.
“We can use it for a variety of needs, even alerting a participant to when an aide is knocking at their door,” Scothorn says.
She acknowledges that some older adults are reluctant to embrace the technology, but those who learn how to use it rave about the support it provides and the extra measure of comfort and safety care.coach brings to the home environment.
Care Resources is a Program of All-inclusive Care for the Elderly, or PACE, which is funded by Medicare and Medicaid. Participants and families who have Medicare or Medicaid pay no out-of-pocket expenses for PACE services, which promote healthy and independent living while working to prevent nursing home placement.
Scothorn and other experts agree that educating older adults – and legislators – about PACE is key. That’s why participants, staff and volunteers will join others in a rally at the state Capitol on Wednesday, May 22. Nearly 200 in total will gather in Lansing to talk with legislators about the value of PACE, how it benefits their constituents and how they can help expand services in Michigan.
“One of our ultimate goals is to provide services to such an extent that there are no gaps in home care coverage,” Scothorn says. “Life involves change. And when those changes affect the comfort and safety of older adults, we want those in need to understand we’re here for them.”
For more information on Care Resources, call 616-913-2006 or visit CareResources.org.
Care Cardinal of Byron Center invites the community to join them in celebrating the beginning of summer at their weekly Farmers Market and family-friendly event June 1.
“We are doing a Farmers Market every Friday, rain or shine,” said Cassidy Boensch, Admissions Director at Care Cardinal Byron Center. “It’s going to be in our parking lot so the residents have the autonomy of selling stuff…and going outside. It’s something for them to participate in and do instead of only the regular day-to-day stuff.”
With seven established West Michigan care communities, Care Cardinal is no stranger to providing a thriving and energetic environment for its assisted living, memory care, and independent living residents.
“Well-being is our goal,” Care Cardinal’s website states, “as well as maintaining the health and happiness of each of our residents, no matter their level of care.”
Care Cardinal’s personal care communities are redesigning care for its residents by creating an intimate, home-like setting where staff and residents interact like family. Attentive care, loving compassion, valued dignity and continued safety for residents are hallmarks of Care Cardinal’s care program.
Boensch is dedicated to integrating events involving the entire Byron Center community as part of that care – and is doing so by offering free options for residents of all ages to take part in.
Farmers market begins in May!
Care Cardinal is hosting the Byron Center Farmers Market every Friday from May 17 – Oct. 11 from 10 a.m. – 3 p.m.
Vendor spots are free and the size of two parking spaces. Care Cardinal residents as well as community members outside the personal care facility are welcome to register and sell products.
Boensch says the Market currently has 25 registered vendors – but they are open to more.
“Spots are free,” said Boensch. “[Vendors] bring their own tents, and whatever [money] they make, they take with them.”
The Market boasts a wide variety of vendors and products, from homemade maple syrup, candy, baked goods, veggies, jellies, dairy products made with goat’s milk, plants, flowers, and natural household products, to beach totes, cosmetic cases, beaded jewelry…and more!
Updates on the Farmers Market can be found on Care Cardinal Byron Center’s Facebook page.
Vendor registration can be completed by contacting Care Cardinal through their website.
But wait – there’s more!
Saturday, June 1 will feature a large, family-friendly summer event at Care Cardinal Byron Center.
“It’s going to be huge, and I’m super excited about it,” said Boensch.
The day will kick off with a free pancake breakfast from 10-11 a.m. A craft show and car show will open at 11 a.m. and run until 4 p.m.
The first 50 children to arrive at the event will receive a Summer Pack Giveaway. Each pack will include summer items such as a sand bucket, flip flops, a bathing suit, shorts, t-shirts and popsicles.
Lawn games include cornhole, horseshoes and Rope the Steer.
Live music from local band Liquid Courage and Bootstrap Boys will provide entertainment for all ages beginning at 11 a.m.
Professional photography will be available throughout the event for all CC residents, community members and families.
All activities are free, excluding food truck refreshments and craft show purchases. The event will wrap up between the hours of 3-4 p.m.
“We want people to come out and be able to have a good time and not have to worry about pricing,” said Boensch.
Join in the fun!
Both the Farmers Market and June summer kickoff event will take place at the Care Cardinal Byron Center location.
“Everything is going to be here at Care Cardinal because we have some residents here that don’t have family members, so transportation would be an issue,” said Boensch. “They’re part of our family, so we wanted to have it somewhere they would be able to enjoy the event just as much as everybody else.”
Though the Care Cardinal location is well known to the area as the previous Byron Center Manor, the Care Cardinal facility is a new addition to the Byron Center area. Boensch said Care Cardinal is excited to engage with the community.
“Byron Center is an older town, so we want to be known in the area for what we do, [meet] with the locals, let people know that we’re here,” said Boensch. “We want people to be able to come in, see the facility, see what we do for our families.”
Care Cardinal resource links
Learn more about care and programs offered by Care Cardinal locations by clicking here.
Byron Center Care Cardinal information can be found here.
“There are more than 117 million Americans age 50 and older – 35% of the total population. I wanted to do a special show to honor and represent that age group,” says Brian B., founder and MC of the SNF. “This is the second year of special performances to recognize specific groups.
“In February, we did our special Black History Month show. In March, it was our Women’s History Month and Gilda’s Club of Grand Rapids LaughFest performances. The SNF is a melting pot of comedians and audience members – different ages, nationalities, so why not honor all the groups that make up the show?”
The Older Americans Month lineup consists of seven different comedians at least 50 years of age. The show will feature former local radio personality Jojo Girard closing out the show. Also featured will be Detroit area comic Kathy Ryan, comedians from Ohio, and various local talent.
“The Sunday Night Funnies has got a big 2024 going on,” said Brian B.
In addition to the the Older Americans Month show, the following Sunday (May 12) will kick off SNF’s seventh annual Kingpin of Comedy competition.
15 years of SNF
The Sunday Night Funnies is the creation of Grand Rapids stand-up comedian Brian B. Now in its 15th year, the SNF is a weekly live stand-up comedy performance featuring over 1,200 performances from comics across Michigan and around the country.
The SNF is a free admission show on Sunday nights at 7:30 p.m. during the winter/spring, and at 8:30 p.m. during summer and early fall. All performances take place at Woody’s Pressbox inside The Spectrum Entertainment Complex in Wyoming.
OK, you’ve made the mid-April tax deadline. Congrats. Now what?
Here’s a thought: Get something arguably as important – or even more so – in order next.
We’re talking about critical health care decisions in the event you’re not able to communicate decisions yourself – decisions you can define in an “advance directive.”
That’s the aim of National Healthcare Decisions Day on April 16 every year, which is typically the day after taxes are due.
Unlike taxes, advance directives aren’t something you’re obligated to execute, but experts agree you’ll feel immense relief should you take on the task. You’ll then have legal documents in place to safeguard the ways in which you want important decisions made about your health care if you are unable to communicate them yourself due to an accident, illness or other factors.
“Having a conversation is a good place to start, after you’ve gone through the contemplative part of it,” says Sara Lowe, executive director of Emmanuel Hospice in Grand Rapids.
Lowe, and scores of her employees, have witnessed firsthand the friction that can ensue when advance directives aren’t in place, and loved ones start arguing about what dad or mom would want when they can no longer decide on their own.
“What we’ve seen is how there is so much more peace in the family when those documents are in place,” says Lowe, noting that setting up advance directives “can serve as a final gift of clarity for your loved ones.”
Conversations should eventually include the person or persons you’re confident about choosing to serve as your durable power of attorney for health care decisions revolving around the types of medical interventions you do and do not want dependent upon the situation.
“Those conversations help determine who the right person for that is,” says Lowe, emphasizing that you shouldn’t automatically choose your spouse or firstborn, but instead that person you can best trust to carry out your wishes.
Advance directives remain in effect until you change it, so it’s a good idea to review your advance directives on an annual basis, especially if your life has been affected by divorce, separation or other family crises that might affect your initial choice.
“You never know when something unforeseen is going to happen,” she says.
Lowe understands that some people find it a daunting task to discuss death and dying. Her suggestion?
“You don’t have to do it all at once. Take your time,” she says. “Think about it, then have those conversations. Break it up into smaller pieces, but then act.”
And she offers this to consider, “It’s always better to have advance directives in place and not need them, than it is to need them and not have them.”
A lawyer is not needed to fill out an advance directive, but witnesses are required for the document to become legally valid. For more information about advance directives, consider visiting websites like CaringInfo.org, where you can navigate to the state you live in for specific guidelines, and download forms. You can also learn more via the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization at nhpco.org.
Once your advance directive is complete, be sure your doctors have a copy, as well as everyone who might be involved with your health care decisions. Store the original document in a safe, but easy to find place. Avoid locking the document away, so it can still be accessed by loved ones if you’re unexpectedly hospitalized.
For more information about Emmanuel Hospice, call 616-719-0919 or visit EmmanuelHospice.org.
According to The New York Times, there are 110 million people in the U.S. over the age of 55. Many of those older adults are living in homes not designed for active aging.
Beacon Hill Living communities are designed to support lifelong learning, hybrid work, and engagement in wellness-related activities as aging individuals redefine their goals.
“We’re in the earliest stages of exploring what we think is a critical form of service that could address the needs of another segment of the senior living population,” said Jeff Huegli, Beacon Hill at Eastgate President and CEO.
“As our society ages, people are looking for opportunities to build community so they can live meaningful lives and stay engaged long after they leave the workforce.”
A shift in serving
Huegli went on to say that a certain dynamic has emerged as generations pass through the Eastgate community.
“There has been a shift in the types of residents we’re serving,” said Huegli. “Baby boomers especially are living life a little bit differently than the first generation who occupied our continuum of care.”
With 450 residents at Eastgate and over 200 on the waiting list, Huegli began earnestly redeveloping Eastgate in 2010 to meet those changing needs.
“As our waiting list grew, and as we saw the needs and interests of this population change within the community, we addressed them with programming and other services,” said Huegli. “We were still extremely hospitality focused, but there were some external factors that would drive the question for our future residents about whether their interests could really be met in a place like this one.”
Eastgate’s campus meets a specific need and has a history of 64 years of excellent residential and clinical care services. However, Huegli has seen the changing needs of the people they serve.
“Leaning on Urbaneer’s ageless design and Seamless Ventures’ tech expertise, [Beacon Hill Living] homes not only fit today’s active lifestyle, they allow residents to age without necessarily having to downsize and move,” said Huegli.
Beacon Hill Living will provide unique opportunities for seniors to make that seamless transition into the next chapter of their lives, and to “age in place” by exploring new forms of services and residences.
Technology plays a huge role in that transition process.
An information-rich environment
Focused on ages 55 and up, BH Living communities will encompass 40-60 single-story homes under 1,200 square feet – and will incorporate smart technology designed to increase their owners’ “health span.”
“Technology exists that allows us to monitor our health and manage our homes,” said Ben Look, a partner with Seamless Ventures. “By marrying these two, we can create an even smarter home that helps homeowners better understand their current state of wellness and live even healthier.”
Huegli said technology will be used in non-invasive forms, and believes it will help with lifestyles while also gathering information about how people age over time.
“It just feels like the right way of integrating technology with person-centered living,” said Huegli. “It’s such a good way of measuring life. Then we can tackle interventions or even optimize living environment, air quality, lighting – all the stuff that can happen through intentional design.”
That information can then help inform significant decisions later on in life, such as when it is right to move into assisted living, and when an individual should consider entering into a continuum of care like Eastgate.
“Many of us are still working professionals,” said Huegli, citing his own life as an example. “I’m nearly that age, and I still see 20 years of work in my life. Where am I going to do that?
“I’m in my original home where I raised my kids. It’s a fantastic community. But technologically, I don’t know if I have the capacity, in my 60-something-year old house, to be able to keep up with what I think my work mode needs – and that will probably change over time. Additionally, the house itself isn’t designed to be able to age with me.”
Most people move into a senior living community because of an imminent need for themselves or their spouse.
“Seniors need to make these decisions more readily because forced change is such a radical experience,” said Huegli. “It really minimizes the opportunity for experiencing richness in the third chapter.
“Those are the aspects of Beacon Hill Living that I’m most excited about. The intentionality that informs each resident of the community, who can then see the future and not be worried about it so much.”
Intentional design
The Urbaneer-designed homes and communities will be curated by Beacon Hill at Eastgate senior living experts.
“What we’re looking for is a way to maintain our commitment to community, maintain healthiness, and then intentionally put in systems that aren’t invasive, but rather enable the graceful and intentional aging of our residents,” said Huegli.
Thirteen design principles have been devised after a year-long, human-centered research project. Those design principles focus mainly on assisted living, with some independent living applications.
“But they’re also universal,” said Huegli. “This has the ability to make a major impact regionally.
“If we can gain efficiency and the attractive form of living that we think we can, we could replicate this in a variety of ways…and make a difference in all the different communities that would welcome this.”
Finalizing locations
Beacon Hill Living is working to finalize the location for its first community, focusing on the Traverse City market.
“That market has such an interesting demographic to it,” said Huegli. “It’s well-established, it’s got the types of residents there who are committed to the community itself.”
Though several properties have been identified as potential prospects, none have been fully secured. Huegli’s objective is to find property located near naturally occurring resources such as restaurants, health care, and other typical urban offerings.
“Our focus would then be to integrate these communities into the natural world around them, while also enhancing the opportunities for people living in them to enjoy the richer lifestyle and promises of a great near future with intentional planning through community building,” Huegli said.
For Huegli, community is what living is all about.
A community-focused mission
“We found that community establishment is not physical,” said Huegli. “It’s literally relational. That connection is what establishes community, and is what ultimately derives wellness.
“The healthiest of our communities are the ones which occur naturally. Where friendships are established through well-planned spaces and well-planned programs. But the people make it happen.”
Huegli says it has been heartening to see that energy happening at Eastgate, and sees the same translation occurring in the Beacon Hill Living communities.
“The mission of Beacon Hill Living is to fill – to the fullest – the bucket of opportunity for living for any individual resident,” said Huegli. “Where you can explore connecting with neighbors, live your life to your fullest, and have that environment move along with you.”
Vision and opportunity
Beacon Hill Living hopes to have land secured by the end of 2024, with the prospect of construction beginning in 2025.
When asked if there is a vision for a Beacon Hill Living community in West Michigan, Huegli said,“Definitely. As we’ve established this concept for Traverse City, I’m seeing lots of opportunities around this town.
“The horizon is endless. The resources are not limitless, but they are there, and we can bring them together and make something beautiful happen.”
Stay tuned: Click here for more information and updates on Beacon Hill Living.
When it comes to coping and caring for someone with Alzheimer’s disease, it’s important at times to consider what you don’t say and do.
“People with Alzheimer’s live in a different reality once it advances,” says Paula Lett, social services manager at Care Resources, a Grand Rapids-based program for older adults that promotes healthy, independent living and helps prevent nursing home placement.
“In the beginning, they can be redirected, but as things progress, they’re stuck in a reality they’ve lived previously.”
The result can lead to extreme “agitation,” which can manifest itself in “getting upset, worked up and angry,” notes Ryanne Mondry, social services supervisor at Care Resources.
“That leads to confusion, miscommunication and misunderstandings.”
Stress levels can accelerate for both patients and caregivers. With Alzheimer’s expected to afflict nearly 13 million Americans by 2050 – the number now stands at some 7 million – it’s more important than ever to lean on education and advocacy for a disease that, according to the Alzheimer’s Association, is the fifth-leading cause of death among Americans 65 and older.
There are numerous strategies recommended for caregivers, including what Mondry says are telling “therapeutic white lies” to reduce stress in patients. For example, if a widower asks about seeing his wife, he shouldn’t be told she’s been dead five years, but instead that “she’s going to try to visit tomorrow.”
If they ask about the automobile they haven’t driven in the last year, things are apt to go more smoothly if they’re told “it’s in the shop for some minor repairs.”
Telling harsh truths might seem like the moral thing to do, but doing so can challenge the reality the disease has caused, and lead to traumatic episodes.
“It is generally best to redirect them than trying to make them remember what’s really going on, as that can really escalate things,” Lett says.
Lett and Mondry offer these additional tips for coping:
Ask the patient if they’re hungry, thirsty or tired. They might be unable to recognize basic needs.
Be aware of their blood-sugar levels.
Pay attention to their hygiene needs. Some with Alzheimer’s resist showering. Encourage a calming bath instead.
Try a change of scenery. Bring them into a quiet space. Take them for a walk or a drive. Play some music.
Lett and Mondry agree that caregivers also must understand that patients aren’t intentionally trying to be difficult in moments of increased agitation.
“Their brains have actually changed, and they sometimes become different people,” Lett says.
Mondry adds, “They can become more impulsive, engage in colorful language, and say and do things that are totally out of character.”
Both professionals agree it’s critical for caregivers to take care of themselves, too. Mondry compares it to the instructions given on flights where if the masks drop from above, capable adults need to put theirs on before assisting others.
“It’s easy to become burned out, and that can lead to unintentional neglect toward the person you’re supposed to be caring for,” Lett says. “Go for a walk, get enough sleep or join a support group.”
Mondry and Lett also suggest visiting a place like Care Resources, where there are wraparound support services for adults 55 years and older to give caregivers respite. Several team members have gone through comprehensive dementia care training developed by renowned dementia educator Teepa Snow to achieve a range of Positive Approach to Care® dementia certifications. These certifications allow staff to provide quality direct dementia care to participants, as well as and conduct ongoing dementia care training for other team members.
The organization’s day center at 4150 Kalamazoo Ave. SE invites participants to visit, enjoy a meal and socialize. Individuals may also be eligible for medical care, prescription help, dietary advice, physical and occupational therapy, transportation and much more. For more information, call Care Resources at 616-913-2006 or visit CareResources.org
The City of Kentwood invites community members to connect with senior-focused resources at the 25th annual Spotlight on Seniors Expo on Tuesday, April 16.
The free indoor event will take place from 9 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. at the Kentwood Activities Center, 355 48th St. SE. It will feature more than 50 vendors from a variety of community businesses, free health screenings, door prizes, free lunch and more.
“Kentwood is fortunate to be surrounded by community resources that promote wellness across all age groups,” said Kentwood Recreation Program Coordinator Ann Przybysz. “The Spotlight on Seniors Expo serves as a platform for older adults and community members to come together to celebrate the journey of aging and explore the diverse services available to them.”
Vendors represent a wide variety of industries, with professionals knowledgeable in everything from physical therapy and hearing services to recreational opportunities and retirement planning.
The gold sponsors of the 25th annual Spotlight on Seniors Expo are Consumers Energy, The Oaks at Byron Center, The Oaks at Jamestown and We Care 4 U, LLC. Silver sponsors include CapTel Outreach, Devoted 2U Home Care, HealthMarkets Insurance Agency, Miracle-Ear and The Brook Retirement Communities.
As adults age into their 50s and beyond, their nutritional needs change, so it’s important for that population to be deliberate in what and how much they ingest for optimal health.
That’s the word from registered dietitians and nutritionists like Patti Rozycki of Care Resources in Grand Rapids, one of countless professionals working to create awareness of proper nutrition, especially during March, when she and her colleagues celebrate National Nutrition Month.
For more than 50 consecutive years, the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics has been annually celebrating wise choices around food each March and the need to develop sound eating and physical activity habits.
Being nutritionally aware is arguably most important for adults 50 and older, since their needs are adjusting with age – needs tied to slowed metabolism, weakened senses, slowed digestion and challenges with medications and illnesses.
One of the keys, says Rozycki, is to avoid choices offering “empty calories” – things like juice drinks, sugary cereals, doughnuts and potato chips. The same goes for fried foods, caffeine, alcohol and high-sodium foods, all of which can affect quality of life.
Instead, choose more “nutrient-dense” foods packed with vitamins and minerals – think eggs, dairy, whole grains, fruits and vegetables – and lay off foods with added sugar, salt (sodium) or that are high in fat.
“Your nutrition profile should have variety,” she notes, “but make sure you’re making healthy choices.”
Those measures and more are put into practice daily for the adults served by Care Resources, where Rozycki has been in place for more than four years, serving participants 55 years and older who qualify for a wide host of services, including dietary advice.
With headquarters at 4150 Kalamazoo Ave. SE, Care Resources reaches out to hundreds of people in Kent County and parts of surrounding counties with a community-based program that promotes healthy, independent living to prevent nursing home placement.
In addition to recommending what foods to eat, Rozycki has these tips for older adults interested in healthy nutrition choices:
Be purposeful in what you purchase to eat. Make a healthy list and stick to it, avoiding impulse buys.
When traveling, plan ahead of time what and where you’ll eat. If possible, pack healthy snacks as an alternative to stopping for fast food.
Don’t overlook your hydration. You typically need water before you become overly thirsty. Dehydration can have a debilitating effect on your health.
Avoid fad diets and lose-weight-quick schemes. And be wary of supplements and what they claim to do.
At Care Resources, nutrition is just part of a comprehensive plan created individually for its participants, Rozycki says. If, for example, the goal is to lose weight, many factors go into the establishment of a plan, including health history, medications, exercise options and support from friends and family.
With obesity rates for Americans 60 and over at nearly 42% and rising, Rozycki says it’s more important than ever to eat healthier.
“It’s all about making the right choices.”
Nutrition counseling through a program like Care Resources can help older adults create a health plan that is tailored to individual needs. For more information, call 616-913-2006 or visit CareResources.org.
Beacon Hill at Eastgate is more than a retirement community – it is a mission to deliver a new standard in senior living.
“We’ve made a great change here in the way that senior care is delivered in Grand Rapids,” said Jeff Huegli, President and CEO of Beacon Hill at Eastgate.
That standard has garnered notice by more than just Beacon Hill residents.
Recently recognized as one of America’s Best Continuing Care Retirement Communities (CCRCs) by Newsweek and Statista, Beacon Hill at Eastgate is ranked at #45 out 250 CCRCs in the United States, and #2 within the state of Michigan.
“It’s been a head-turning moment for the organization,” said Huegli.
A humble beginning
Located in the heart of the Eastgate neighborhood in Grand Rapids, Beacon Hill is a distinctive, not-for-profit retirement community dedicated to providing a vibrant life for Grand Rapids’ seniors.
The vision for Beacon Hill began in 1951 by five area Baptist churches. That vision came to fruition on a 10-acre site named Michigan Christian Home.
“It’s a historic building that initially served independent living residents, with some assisted living, and skilled nursing,” said Huegli.
Huegli came to Beacon Hill in 2003 to help expand the campus in a different part of the county.
“After recognizing that our market and our call to service for the community is here on the southeast side, we reinvested and bought the hospital that was here, Metro Hospital, and gained the 12-acre site to begin constructing independent living – which is now known as Beacon Hill at Eastgate,” said Huegli.
Huegli and the Beacon Hill staff are dedicated to continuing the original vision and core values of the founders: Christ-inspired compassion, service, collaboration, generosity and integrity.
“Even though we’re now known for hospitality, wonderful lifestyle, community connection, all of our heart and service model is rooted in the original values that were established by that board,” said Huegli.
Skilled nursing is the core of that original service model.
“We have done a tremendous job in building out our healthcare system,” said Huegli. “We’ve attracted great service partners. Trinity Health comes out of that organization, and they have really committed to forming a high-quality health system.”
A thriving community
The heart of Beacon Hill’s mission is community.
“We are a faith-based community,” said Huegli. “We hold onto what Jesus Christ taught us for hospitality and personal care in the gospel, transferring that into a modern healthcare system.
“Attending to all people, irrespective of where they come from. That has given us a really rich tapestry of a wonderful, thriving community.”
Beacon Hill works to provide a warm, high-quality environment for its residents and the community. Part of that environment includes walking paths and a community garden.
“What’s different about Beacon Hill from other communities is that we’re located in the [Eastgate] neighborhood. We love that it’s urban, and we intentionally invest in connecting to the people, and to the geography, of this area.”
Beacon Hill’s commitment to each individual and where they are in their life journey is shown in the care of every resident, family member and guest.
“Each person is known,” said Huegli.
Experiencing life…again!
Beacon Hill serves over 400 residents, many who are learning to experience life for a second time.
“My favorite people [are] the residents who reluctantly come here,” admitted Huegli. “These are folks who have had a highly independent professional career where they have made their own decisions, they have had great influence over process or an organization, and are fiercely independent.”
However, Beacon Hill becomes their home, Huegli continued. “This place just seeps in over time, and we see engagement over and over again.”
The Beacon Hill community provides residents with opportunities for activity, exercise and optimism.
“And optimism,” Hugeli said, “is a significant portion of physical health. That’s what Beacon Hill can do for people.”
The highest standard of care
Huegli said satisfaction rates with Beacon Hills’ extended care services of rehab memory care, assisted living and other personal services, are high.
“We work minute-by-minute to ensure that we’re meeting the standards, and that we’re exceeding expectations in every form,” said Huegli. “We know the effort our 250 employees give will be reflected immediately on quality of life for each resident and their family member.”
Continuous investment is also a Beacon Hill priority.
“We put over $150 million of capital into this campus over the years that I’ve been here, and what has resulted is something that’s way deeper than a dollar bill,” said Huegli. “It’s connection.
“City connection, connection to our immediate neighbors, and bonds between residents and the staff who work here every day.”
The recent national recognition of Beacon Hill’s efforts is meaningful because they did not seek it out.
“I don’t even remember hearing about this before it was announced,” Huegli said. “So the fact that it’s an independent study is all the more meaningful.”
Intentional care creates increasing demand
The demand for Continuing Care Retirement Communities (CCRCs) is steadily increasing, a fact that is not surprising to Huegli.
“Communities like us, we are intentional in creating a friendly, warm and optimistic place that’s just packed full of resources,” said Huegli. “The value that we can add as a provider for any resident here – independently or otherwise – is astounding.”
Out of the 2000+ CCRCs throughout the United States, Huegli said: “Beacon Hill is a gold standard, and it’s been my career’s work to see it through.”
Generations of service
To Huegli, serving the senior community is not just a job – it is his passion.
“I’ve got a long history in my family, generations of people who have dedicated their lives to community service, community development, social change,” said Huegli. “That inspired me to find a career path that would make a difference but also make use of my interests.”
Those interests include planning, finance, design and marketing. But Huegli finds his purpose in caring for others.
“Taking care of seniors has been an amazing find for me personally,” said Huegli. “Impacting individual seniors as their needs have changed and interacting with a care team who is equally committed – I can’t think of anything more noble.
“Touching these lives in a positive way…there’s nothing better.”
What’s next?
Committed to being state-of-the-art and progressive in their programs and designs, Beacon Hill is poised for even more growth.
“Our next work will be to construct the finest assisted living and memory care program around, just as we have with other components of our service model,” said Huegli. “You’ll be seeing more from us very soon.”
To learn more about the Beacon Hill at Eastgate services and community, click here.
But in it, Tom Muszynski finds inspiration that reassures him Care Resources, the community-based program where he serves as chief operating officer, is on the right track.
“I received a card recently from a family who said that without our program, their mother never would have been able to remain in her home during the last year,” he says.
A main reason? The fact that Care Resources and its caregivers adhere to something called the 11 disciplines, administered by professionals in 11 health-related fields who work together to treat not just a symptom, but the entire person.
With a day center located in Grand Rapids at 4150 Kalamazoo Ave. SE, Care Resources is part of a larger national entity called PACE, short for Program of All-Inclusive Care for the Elderly. PACE is committed to keeping adults 55 years and older with challenging health care conditions in their home by caring for their medical, physical and social needs.
The 11 disciplines of PACE focus on providing a day care center; and delivering primary care, nursing, physical therapy, occupational therapy, recreational therapy, social work, dietary services, transportation, personal care services and home care services to promote healthy and independent living and help prevent nursing home placement.
As COO the better part of two decades – and a health care provider nearly 35 years in all – Muszynski is well-versed in PACE and extolls its virtues to every employee.
“Really getting to know one another and our participants is tied to those disciplines,” he says. “Our holistic approach to care means everybody is collaborating on participant needs and going beyond the call of duty to support others.”
Each of the disciplines addresses a specific aspect of health and wellness, but the teams delivering those services are interconnected. This interdisciplinary group meets daily to plan tomorrow’s needs, based on what that day or previous days rendered. They assess risks, provide and oversee medications, encourage activity, provide transportation, guide dietary needs, address hygiene, provide post-surgical care and so much more.
With such a wide range of health care services, Care Resources is able to ensure participants get high-quality care in a timely manner.
“For example, if we have a person with a hurting shoulder, they don’t wait two months to see someone,” Muszynski says. “It happens within a day or two because of the diverse specialists and resources we have available.”
At Care Resources, it’s also important to bring family members in as part of the equation.
“We want to be aware of everything and everyone affecting a person’s health in order to develop a comprehensive care plan unique to the physical, mental, emotional and social needs of each participant,” he says. “We also want to ensure family caregivers have the support they need as their loved ones continue to age.”
Although not a discipline, Care Resources also is purposeful in bringing whimsy to the party to promote socialization and build community among participants.
“Our employees will dress up for holidays, put on barbecues and even stage a prom dance to create a fun and engaging experience for participants,” he explains. “And we’re always open to other ideas. It’s why we have a participant advisory committee to help us consider new and better ways to serve.
“We’re dedicated to positively impacting lives. That’s what we do.”
For more information about Care Resources and the PACE model of care, call 616-913-2006 or visit CareResources.org.
Two sobering facts to consider: One, that heart-related disease is the leading cause of death among U.S. adults. And two, that hospice care is vastly underutilized by that very population.
“There’s a big gap,” says Melissa Page, director of clinical services at Emmanuel Hospice. That’s why she and her colleagues have been aggressively advocating for more education and awareness revolving around Emmanuel’s Heart & Soul Advanced Cardiac Program.
It’s a toolkit of sorts, linked in with a program developed by the National Partnership for Healthcare and Hospice Innovation in collaboration with the American Heart Association. The goal is to ensure patients with heart disease and their loved ones are well informed so symptoms can be managed safely at home, reducing trips to the ER or hospital.
A mainstay of the collaboration is a 32-page Advanced Cardiac Care Guide, which includes valuable information on everything from recognizing symptoms to dietary recommendations. Many patients living with end-stage heart disease are burdened by visits to the doctor’s office, emergency room and hospital due to breathing difficulties, edema, fatigue and other worsening symptoms.
Such exacerbations can often be prevented or managed by hospice and palliative care, says Julie Chambers, a nurse case manager for Emmanuel.
“With hospice care, it’s more about providing comfort,” Chambers says. “And that can mean fewer visits to offices and more time with family enjoying a higher quality of life while still collaborating with a cardiac team to treat anything from breathing issues to swollen limbs to fluctuations in weight and appetite.”
“We’re seeking ways to include people already involved with the patient’s care, while also folding in all the services our organization provides,” Page adds.
To that end, Chambers and Page and other team members at Emmanuel Hospice are constantly looking for ways to help make cardiologists and other professionals aware of the benefits hospice can provide.
“When hospice care is part of the formula, we see lower anxiety levels, less fear of the unknown and fewer feelings of helplessness,” Chambers says. “It’s all part of putting the patient at ease, a different culture of care.”
Support might include regular visits from Emmanuel Hospice experts, and can extend beyond traditional care to complementary therapies and services involving everything from massage to music to essential oils.
Chambers and Page emphasize that people affected by cardiac disease either personally or through a loved one can reach out with questions at any time, even if they’re not experiencing end-stage symptoms.
“Death doesn’t need to be imminent,” Page says. “It’s OK to simply call and say, ‘I’d like to know more about this.’”
“It’s also important for people to know that they’re not ‘giving up’ when they reach out to us,” adds Chambers. “We’re fighting against that stigma, that ‘If I’m going on hospice, I’m giving up.’ No. You’re choosing what you want, and we’re here to honor that choice.”
It’s getting out of the recliner and onto your feet and into action that will test your resolve.
But when you consider that it’s your very health and welfare at risk, the team at Care Resources is in your corner and ready to encourage you in ways that keep you active during Michigan’s ch-ch-chilly and challenging winter months.
“With anything, it’s the first step out the door that’s the hardest,” says Garth Falkins, recreational therapy manager for Care Resources, a community-based program for people 55 and older seeking to remain in their homes.
“The key is to motivate yourself and remind yourself that you don’t want to just sit around and watch TV all day,” Falkins says. “We have programs in place at our day center, and also strategies to help people at home who want to promote their well-being.
“It helps to actually make a plan of what you might like to do, and that can grow into a long list, anything from jogging in place to doing some simple exercises to taking a walk – even if it’s just around the home or up and down a hallway or out to the mailbox and back.”
Even playing a board game, reading a book, going through your coin collection, scrapbooking or sorting photos will enhance your day more so than staring at the tube or taking another nap.
Falkins emphasizes how gathering with others for social interaction can help repel the seasonal doldrums and positively affect your mental and emotional health.
“COVID really demonstrated to us all how important it is to stay connected with others,” Falkins says. “Our programs provide the incentive to do that.”
For those who qualify, the day center at 4150 Kalamazoo Ave. SE in Grand Rapids lures with an array of activities that include bingo games, exercise options, crafts, music and much more. Transportation is available to and from clients’ homes. The center draws participants from Kent and parts of surrounding counties – 872 square miles in all.
Technology also can be your ally. Consider FaceTiming or Zooming a friend or relative. Or check out care.coach, a platform allowing you to talk to a friendly avatar to provide compassionate 24-7 psychosocial support.
Falkins says it’s important you try to stick with plans to stay active, and engage others in your quest to be healthy. Reach out to community centers, churches, schools, health clubs – anywhere people gather.
Falkins emphasizes that “getting older doesn’t mean you pull away.” On the contrary, he says, “people 55 and older are a lot wiser and have a lot more to give and to get from pursuing healthy options.”
In any case, “try to make the effort,” Falkins says. “Begin with baby steps, and build from there. In the long run, you’ll thank yourself for it.”
Learn more about Care Resources by visiting CareResources.org or calling 616-913-2006.
Wish you could feel a bit more energized? Try lemon.
As for improving congestion and mental focus? Peppermint, perhaps.
In hospice care, these and other essential oils are finding their way into the mainstream as ways to minimize adverse reactions and maximize therapeutic benefits, often in conjunction with other methods of treatment.
At Emmanuel Hospice, essential oils have been part of the care team’s toolkit for upwards of five years now, relying on 100% natural extracts from plants which support the holistic wellbeing of mind, body and spirit.
Lavender
“We currently utilize four essential oils,” explains Jenny Kellogg, Emmanuel’s support programs manager. “There’s lavender, a light and floral scent, which can ease feelings of tension, and sometimes reduce a person’s anxiety and even help calm them and promote restful sleep.
Lemon
“Then there’s lemon, a bright and citrusy scent, which can be used for odor control and for uplifting moods, sort of like the opposite of lavender.
Frankincense
“The third is frankincense, an earthy scent with a Biblical tie-in, which can help with emotional balance and spiritual awareness. A patient might be struggling with their diagnosis, and frankincense can offer some respite from those feelings.
Peppermint
“The fourth is peppermint, a cool and refreshing scent, which can help with multiple things. It can clear congestion, improve mental focus and help with nausea and headaches.”
Kellogg stresses that Emmanuel only uses essential oils procured from a reputable supplier, rather than diluted oils you might purchase in some retail stores. In any case, Emmanuel limits their use to only a few drops at a time that are diffused into the air, sprayed onto linens or applied sparingly to a piece of felt that can be pinned to clothing.
The reaction patients have to the oils can vary.
“Like with most things, reactions are different,” Kellogg says. “All oils are unique in their scent and utilization. It offers a person-centered approach to symptom management based on each patient’s preferences and needs.
“A lot of times, people will gravitate toward lavender oil because it helps them sleep, or puts them at ease. And others like lemon oil because it can improve energy and promote an invigorating environment.”
Since essential oils are so potent, they’re used with extreme care. Emmanuel uses protocols about how much to use in a diffuser or the correct amount to spray into the air or introduce to clothing or bedding. It takes 60 pounds of lavender to produce just one ounce of its essential oil. For the same amount of essential lemon oil, 90 lemons are required.
Though there are studies demonstrating health benefits from essential oils, Kellogg says “some patients connect with and believe in oils more than others.”
“This is just another way we offer patient’s choice in their plan of care and ways to improve their quality of life,” she adds.
Overall, they serve as a valid alternative to some medications, and represent “an important tool for us, especially for patients who hesitate to add more medications to their list.”
Essential oils are one of many complementary therapies and services Emmanuel Hospice offers that can be used alongside pharmaceutical approaches or as an alternative to enhance each patient’s life. Others include massage therapy, music therapy, pet visitors and virtual reality, to name a few.
“It’s all about how best to treat the patient and the patient’s family,” Kellogg says. “If essential oils can help, we’ll make them part of the journey.”
For more information about holistic end-of-life care, visit EmmanuelHospice.org or call 616-719-0919.
At some point, the one you love is likely going to need extra help with anything from doing the dishes to navigating stairways.
The question is, how and when do you know?
At Care Resources, there are people and programs in place to help you recognize the signs that changes are occurring, and how to help get the support they need.
“Everyone has their normal baseline, so what you’re looking for are changes to that,” says Amanda Oswald, an intake social worker with Care Resources, a community-based program for people 55 and older seeking to remain in their homes. “You have to look for clues.
“When someone is having trouble with what used to be a routine task, that’s when you might want to have a conversation. It can be about any number of activities.”
In the kitchen alone, says Oswald, there might be signs – scorched pans that signal a burner was left on too long, spoiled food in the refrigerator, a lack of food or stacks of unwashed dishes.
What you’re looking for, she says, is “anything out of the ordinary.”
Oswald suggests keeping an eye out for unpaid bills and bounced checks, sudden difficulty following a recipe, dirty laundry piling up as well as dents and scratches showing up on a motor vehicle.
Sometimes, the changes are a red flag signaling the onset of dementia or other physical or mental maladies.
“Maybe they’re out driving and can’t remember how to get somewhere,” Oswald says. “Or they’re having difficulty managing their medications, which we see a lot of – people who are running out of something too soon, or not getting refills.”
Oswald emphasizes that Care Resources – with a mission to promote healthy and independent living while working to prevent nursing home placement – is well-equipped to assist people whose challenges are increasing.
It provides an array of services at its day center at 4150 Kalamazoo Ave. SE, and makes home visits to dozens of older adults every day of the week.
Oswald notes that some changes people go through are more obvious.
They may have trouble getting out of a chair or off the toilet or out of bed. They may be undergoing unintentional weight loss, or showing marks or bruises indicating they’re experiencing falls. Their personal hygiene may be declining. They might be avoiding contact with others.
A next step once you zero in on such changes? Have a conversation. Oswald recognizes that can be intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be as long as you avoid jumping to conclusions.
“Be respectful when approaching someone,” Oswald counsels. “Don’t let it be demeaning. Some of these changes signal the eventual loss of independence, and that can be life changing.”
Partnering with an organization like Care Resources – which provides services to those in Kent and parts of four surrounding counties – can provide interventions that help keep people in their homes.
The important thing, says Oswald, is to intervene “sooner than later,” and emphasize that your primary interest is that they’re safe and have the support they need.
At Emmanuel Hospice, you might say Veterans Day is every day when it comes to providing patient care to those who have served in our country’s military.
Just ask Jim Parent, a mostly retired machine repairman, who never thought that his own service in the U.S. Marines more than a half century ago would set the stage for how he gives back to fellow veterans receiving end-of-life care.
“It was a couple of years ago when I turned to my wife, Mary, and said, ‘You know, I’m thinking of retiring, and she said, ‘Well, you might want to look into volunteering,’” Parent said.
So, he did. In exploring his options, Parent learned of something sponsored by Emmanuel Hospice dubbed its “veteran-to-veteran” program. Open to veterans and active-duty service members in West Michigan, the volunteer program offers an opportunity to provide companionship and support to veterans facing a life-limiting illness.
The first patient he saw was so disconnected from friends, family and community that, had it not been for Parent’s efforts, his funeral would have been attended by no one.
“He was in his late 50s, and even though we were fellow Marines, he didn’t want to talk about much at first,” Parent recalled. “He had children earlier in life, but I never saw any family or friends with him during my visits to his facility.”
Parent, whose own service was in Vietnam in 1969, was able to gain the vet’s trust in part by showing him magic tricks he learned via YouTube. Along the way, Parent had assured the veteran that when he passed, he would not be alone.
When he died on a cool day the next spring, Parent and four team members from Emmanuel attended his funeral at Fort Custer in Battle Creek.
“We were able to keep that promise, providing him a military funeral with a 21-gun salute,” he said. “I guess you could say Emmanuel was his family.”
Parent has since spent time with a half-dozen other veterans, whose stories are the stuff of legends, including one World War II vet who turns 102 soon and, at 100, was still piloting around his 400-plus horsepower Chevrolet Camaro.
Another WWII vet – also still living, at age 97 – grew up dirt-poor in a West Virginia coal-mining town and quit school at 14 because he was tired of being teased about his shoes, which were fashioned from cardboard and tape. He worked the mines until he was 17, then joined the U.S. Navy.
Parent says he receives more out of his volunteering than he gives.
“I get so much from their stories, and it makes me a better person, more aware of the different paths they walk, that we all walk,” he said. “I guess I’m cultivating a little empathy, too. And it’s a great learning experience.”
For his service, Emmanuel Hospice awarded him the Sister Gabriela Caring Spirit Award to honor him as the 2022 volunteer of the year.
Parent was humbled to receive the honor. The award recognizes a volunteer who carries with them the mission and vision of Emmanuel Hospice and who goes above and beyond with their compassion for patients and their families. It is named after Sister M. Gabriela Hilke, the founding visionary behind the creation of Emmanuel Hospice and the award’s first recipient.
“Jim embodies what we look for in all our team members and volunteers – the ability and willingness to go that extra mile for all the people we serve,” said Sara Lowe, Emmanuel Hospice executive director. “He’s an excellent example of all that we try to be, and to bring to our people.”
Emmanuel Hospice is seeking more volunteers for its veteran-to-veteran volunteer program, which is offered year-round for patients. Those who are interested may visit EmmanuelHospice.org/volunteer to learn more and register.
Honoring its veterans is just one way that Care Resources – a community-based program for people 55 and over who wish to remain in their homes – utilizes its Grand Rapids site, which features a day center, clinic and pharmacy.
At Care Resources, veterans and other participants have access to a wide range of services, from physical, occupational and speech therapy, to daily meals and activities in the day center, to rehab and durable medical equipment, such as walkers, wheelchairs, oxygen and diabetic testing supplies.
Care Resources also makes daily home visits to nearly 60 men and women – veterans included – who are seeking ways to prevent being placed into nursing homes. Promoting healthy and independent living while working to prevent nursing home placement is the mission of the organization.
Care Resources values all the veterans they care for throughout the year. But on Veterans Day in particular, the organization takes the time to publicly salute the men and women who brought honor and dignity to the uniform they wore and to the flag they served.
For the last several years, Care Resources has hosted a ceremony during which the veterans in their care are showcased for the sacrifices they’ve made. A married pair of active-duty officers from the Michigan National Guard are only too happy to emcee the special event held every November at the organization’s day center at 4150 Kalamazoo Avenue SE.
This year’s program was held Friday, Nov. 10, and featured the National Anthem, the Pledge of Allegiance, remarks from Sgt. Maj. John Gebhard and the presentation of a pin and a commemorative coin to every veteran in attendance.
“We’re so thankful for them and it truly is an honor to let them know it, to show our appreciation,” says Sgt. Maj. John Gebhard.
His wife, Chief Warrant Officer 2 Krista Gebhard, adds: “We get to hear their stories, and make such important connections. It’s a great opportunity for us all.”
To learn more about Care Resources, visit CareResources.org or call 616-913-2006.
“This was prompted by the recognition that our senior community in Wyoming is one that deserves to have attention provided to it, and services delivered right to their doorstep,” said Fitzgerald. “We really looked at what this community needs, and it is more direct services from the state. This is an opportunity for us to begin a tradition of providing these resources directly to the community.”
The Resource Fair included several community organizations that provided information, resources, goodies, and even lunch for attendees. The goal was to not only reach members of the Wyoming Senior Center where the event was held, but also the general community with resources specific to older adults in Wyoming.
“It’s very easy for older adults to slip through the cracks,” said Chad Boprie, WSC Director. “As people hit retirement age, they start to have these needs and they don’t know where to find help. By doing an event like this, [seniors] can get a lot of the resources in one place and be able to tap into those,” said Boprie.
A need for resources and compassion
Resident Janet Thompson attended the Resource Fair for that exact reason.
Housing, transportation, and service providers such as plumbers and electricians were among Thompson’s top priorities.
“We want to stay in our homes as long as we can,” said Thompson. “We figured we would hire what we need done, but we don’t know where to go to hire it done.”
Where to get help – and help from providers experienced with the senior community – is not always clear, Thompson continued.
“I thought maybe the [vendors] who come here are used to dealing with seniors…and might be more patient and have more knowledge,” said Thompson.
Providing knowledge and expertise
Senior Real Estate Specialist, Patti Grover Gabrielse, participated as a vendor at the Resource Fair to help provide that experience and knowledge.
“What we do is we focus on the senior adult community,” said Gabrielse. “Of course we want to stay in our homes as long as we can, but when the time comes that we have to sell, I make sure to protect that asset and get the most amount of money for them.”
Gabrielse went on to say that there are real estate agents out there who take advantage of people who don’t know the market.
“It’s a real area of elder abuse,” Gabrielse said. “That money, whether [seniors] are going to go to assisted living or if they are going to go to family and live, every dime matters to them.”
Health and wellness education
Tia Ezell with Urban League of West Michigan participated in the Resource Fair to provide information on COVID-19 and tobacco reform.
“Today we are here with information about COVID-19,” said Ezell. “We have some resources, masks, sanitizer, and literature on the vaccine and that explains things you can do to help prevent the spread of COVID.”
The Grand Rapids Urban League is also looking to end the sale of all flavored tobacco in the state of Michigan, including menthol flavored tobacco.
“[We are] doing our best to engage and educate the community that we serve about the harms of tobacco smoke, and why there is a need for tobacco reform in the state of Michigan,” Ezell said.
Grand Rapids Urban League also provides resources in regard to health and wellness education, housing resources, employment opportunities, and the Cure Violence program.
“The communities we serve are under-resourced, marginalized, and we are aware that we need to do what we can to inform them and provide whatever resources are available,” said Ezell.
A community that cares
The Senior Center works to provide the senior community with care and resources for more than just physical recreation.
“We want to be a hub for recreational services,” said Boprie. “Within that recreation there are so many goals related to not only physical fitness and physical health, but also mental health.”
Boprie went on to say that the WSC staff often sees loneliness and depression in older adults and believes that being active and involved in social programs helps reduce that issue.
“We also offer Meals on Wheels here two days a week, so there is also the nutritional component that we can provide for people as well,” Boprie said.
“We are very fortunate to have a senior center like this in Wyoming,” said Fitzgerald, “where we can have a gathering place to have all these wonderful organizations and people who serve our senior community get right to the source, to the people who need their services most.”
Dedicated to a life of service
Serving his first term representing the 83rd House District, Fitzgerald is dedicated to building policy that will solve everyday, real issues that impact West Michigan residents. His commitment to community service stems from his mother and grandmothers who devoted their lives to giving beyond themselves.
“My personal connection with the senior community began when I was a child,” said Fitzgerald. “Starting at the age of three, I delivered Meals on Wheels with my mom. I would go in there and begin to chat with those who we were delivering meals to, and hear how their day was going.
“In my teenage years, I played cards with a number of my church members who were older,” Fitzgerald continued. “Even today, I look to support our senior community in a number of non-profit ways as well.”
Care Resources in Grand Rapids recently offered a tai chi class to Day Center visitors ages 55 and older as a way to promote healthy living.
“Tai chi is a form of exercise that originated in China and has become extremely popular throughout the world,” said Maria Goosen, a certified therapeutic recreational specialist (CTRS) who led the tai chi class. “It incorporates slow, simple, repetitive and low-impact movements that can be easily modified so that anyone can participate.”
A tranquil environment
The small exercise class took place in a room that featured a screen portraying peaceful nature scenes, low lighting, and soft music.
“Tai chi is often referred to as ‘meditation in motion’ because it focuses on your breath as well which helps to clear your mind,” said Goosen. “This allows for a multitude of emotional benefits such as decreased stress, anxiety and depression and enhanced well-being.”
Slow stretches gradually progressed into a sequence of tai chi movements that participants were able to complete sitting or standing, whichever was most comfortable to them.
Goosen says the benefits of tai chi are lengthy: improved balance, improved strength, improved hand-eye coordination, improved sleep quality, increased blood circulation and decreased risk of high blood pressure.
“It is a research-based intervention that has the capability to improve health in older adults,” said Goosen.
That is critically important to Care Resources, a Program of All-inclusive Care for the Elderly, or PACE®, which is funded by Medicare and Medicaid. The innovative community-based program for people 55 years and older promotes healthy and independent living while working to prevent nursing home placement.
The tai chi class is one of dozens of programs offered each month to participants.
Goosen helped physically guide participants’ movements if asked, but urged them not to do any tai chi moves that would cause pain. “Listen to what your body is telling you,” said Goosen.
The tranquil atmosphere of the class was sporadically broken by soft laughter over participants’ self-proclaimed “creaking bones” and lack of coordination.
“Your bodies appreciate when you move them,” Goosen told the participants. “Be thankful and grateful for all that your body does.”
Bingo…and good friends
Pamela Miller, a tai chi class participant, has been coming to Care Resources five days a week for the past four years.
“I’ve got a lot of pluses about this place,” said Miller with a firm nod when asked if she enjoyed coming to the Day Center.
Playing Bingo, singing with “Diane the Shower Lady,” shopping in the Bingo Room, spending time with friends, and singing karaoke are only a few things Miller enjoys while at the Day Center.
And Miller’s definition of enjoyment is simple: “All I want is a good card to play Bingo.”
Miller has also forged lasting relationships and good friends at the Day Center, one being a gentleman who recently passed away.
Miller and her friend sat beside each other for years, looked out for each other, and went to events together before he died. Miller was thankful that her friend’s wife contacted Miller so she could go to his room and say goodbye before he passed.
“I know I’m not the only one who misses him,” said Miller.
Another good friend loves to paint, and Miller enjoys watching her create works of art.
Comfort and encouragement
Also very important to Miller is talking to the military veterans who come to the Day Center and offering comfort when she can.
“I’m there for them,” said Miller. “I see how they suffer. And they have suffered a lot.”
When asked what Miller’s favorite thing to do is at the Day Center, she answered without hesitation: “Encourage other people.”
Care Resources offers a day center, clinic and pharmacy in its 36,000-square-foot building at 4150 Kalamazoo Ave SE that provide a wide range of health care services as well as opportunities that promote socialization, build community and offer respite to caregivers.