In love and health: Handling grief through the holidays

By Dr. Erik Johnson
Love & Health Chiropractic

When a loved one dies, we experience a great amount of stress. Not only are hearts broken, but disruptions to daily routines and holiday celebrations can take a huge emotional toll. As one of the most common causes of stress, losing a dear friend, family member, or spouse can lead to serious illness, including depression.

Those suffering from a loss during the holidays should engage in practical self-care and tend to the essentials such as eating a well-balanced diet. — The lost of a love one can been difficult during the holidays. (Courtesy of Love and Health Chiropractics)

Stress from loss can show up as negative attitudes or feelings of being out of control. Headaches, neck pain and back pain are common among people who are grieving. So, chiropractic adjustment is one practical way to deal with the general stress as well as the physical manifestations of grief.

The Harvard Medical School Health blog’s “A Guide to Getting through Grief” counsels those mourning a loss to engage in practical self-care and “Tend to the essentials.” Eat a well-balanced diet that includes plenty of fruit, veggies, lean proteins, and a daily multivitamin. Stay hydrated. Make sure to stay on your prescribed medications. And get plenty of sleep—grief can really tire you out. Don’t overdo caffeine or alcohol as both can sabotage a good night’s sleep.

Even if you feel like a slug, try to do a little more exercise than usual. It will not only boost your energy levels but also ease depression, anxiety, and anger. Push yourself to take care of yourself each day. What would make you feel a little better? A funny movie, coffee with a friend, a phone conversation with a family member? If you were a caregiver of the person you lost, now is your chance to take care of you.

Because of the ongoing toll that COVID-19 is taking on us here in Michigan, don’t be surprised to find out that you are not alone in your grief. You might even want to join a grief support group. Many of the meet safely over virtual formats. The State of Michigan Family Center has put together this guide listing grief support by county. In addition, you can find a list of local church-based grief support groups here. Ele’s Place specifically helps children who are grieving. Local hospice organizations and mental health care providers can also help you walk through your grief.

The Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center offers these “7 Things to Remember When Dealing with Loss.”