By D.A. Reed
WKTV Contributor
Despite a turbulent start in life and the odds stacked against them, local twins Monica Sparks and Jessica Ann Tyson didn’t let any roadblocks get in their way.
“People look at us and don’t realize everything we’ve been through,” said Monica Sparks, local business owner and Kent County Commissioner covering a portion of Wyoming and Kentwood. “You look at someone and think that they have it all together or have everything, but we had a very rough start.”
Born to a young heroin addict
Sparks and her twin sister, Jessica Ann Tyson, were born to a young girl addicted to heroin. At 16 years old, their mother already had two children and was in the foster care system when she gave birth to them.
Though they recall a few good memories of their birth mother, most memories involve having to care for themselves as far back as preschool.
“We pretty much had to fend for ourselves all the time,” Sparks said. “I never remember her fixing a dinner, ever, except for one time having fried shrimp from takeout.
“We couldn’t get the cereal because the cereal is on top of the refrigerator, and (their mother and guests) are passed out and we are too small to get it,” Sparks continued. “We tried many things to get that cereal down, but it never worked.”
Many, many days of hunger
At times, the sisters would resort to eating out of dumpsters, but Sparks said they remember “going to bed hungry many, many nights.”
Birth mother viewed with compassion
Despite their harsh childhood experiences, Sparks and Tyson view their mother with compassion.
“Neither of us fault her for that,” Sparks said.
Tyson agreed.
“We’re grateful, if anything else,” Tyson added. “She could have made alternative choices and she really loved us as babies. I believe she was just a product of her environment and her generation.”
Misguided help, that led to a kidnapping
Upset by the lack of care she witnessed from the twins’ mother, their preschool and daycare provider kidnapped Sparks and Tyson in a misguided attempt to help.
“I remember being in the trunk (of her car),” Tyson said. “She was hiding us.”
The police found the twins at their provider’s house and returned the girls to their mother despite the provider explaining about the neglect at home. It was only a few days later, however, when a state worker came to visit them.
“I remember that day like it was today,” Sparks said.
The state worker told the girls that they would need to leave for a time while their mother got some help.
Separated, and lots of tears
“We didn’t know it was going to be forever,” Sparks continued. “They separated us. They put us in two different places.”
Sparks described being separated from her sister as “Sick. Sick. All I did was cry and call my sister’s name.”
After a short time, the twins were brought back together and placed in the foster care system. Unfortunately, it was not a good placement. Once again facing neglect and abuse, Sparks and Tyson found themselves approaching strangers on the street to get food.
“We were little kids, just three or four, on the street, on a corner, hoping that this group of men would feed us,” Sparks said.
Food and safety at school
Tyson remembers loving school because, “school was warm, school let you stay inside, you got free lunch, you could eat.”
Even through these difficulties, compassion flows from both women.
“(Our foster mom) was just a hurting person who hurt other people,” Tyson said. “She was very abusive and was in foster care for the wrong reasons.”
Advocates and angels
Through it all, Sparks and Tyson remember small acts of kindness.
“We had advocates,” Sparks said. “Little angels around that would really take care of us.”
A Muslim family down the street from the twins’ foster home would often give the girls food if they joined the family in evening prayer.
They recalled a lady down the street who left her apartment door open and placed snacks – Sparks remembers raisins and nuts, Tyson remembers Jolly Ranchers – inside the door for them to take at any time.
Finally, a loving, stable home
Sparks and Tyson were seven years old when a school teacher named Joyce Ann Richardson, recently divorced and unable to have children of her own, came to the adoption agency in the hopes of adopting a young child. She found Sparks and Tyson.
Sparks and Tyson both remember Joyce traveling every weekend to come visit the girls no matter the weather. When the abuse at the twins’ foster home was discovered, Sparks and Tyson were allowed to live with Joyce full-time. For the first time, the girls had their own room and a caring provider.
Encountering difficulties with the state allowing her to adopt the twins, Joyce took them to church for prayer. The minister, also a Purple Heart Korean war veteran, fell in love with the girls — and with Joyce.
Alonzo Edward Sparks and Joyce began dating, were married four months later, and have been married for 41 years. Together, they adopted the twins at 8 years old.
Due to lack of structure and socialization in the twins’ lives, Alonzo and Joyce were intentional in their parenting. Sparks openly calls it “damage control.” Both girls were enrolled in private schools, etiquette training, modeling training, public speaking, Girl Scouts, and more.
“There wasn’t anything they wouldn’t do for us,” Tyson said. She admitted that Alonzo and Joyce were strict in their parenting, but, “What did it hurt?” Tyson said with a shrug.
Local business and political leaders
Both Sparks and Tyson are leaders in their community, both as business owners and politicians, and are dedicated to serving others.
“We have very big hearts and it’s because we want other people to have opportunities,” Tyson said. “We don’t rest on our laurels, and we don’t take excuses. You always continue to strive to do more, to be more, to go further – and take others with you. We are always looking to take others with us.”
Tyson serves her community as Ward 2 Kentwood City Commissioner and is a member of several Kentwood community-minded organizations. Tyson also is owner of several businesses, including JA PR Group, LLC, The Candied Yam—Delightful Southern Cuisine, and Pink Lounge Dry Salt Therapy.
“As a person, you want to do your part in society,” Sparks said. She believes that, whether or not you have a hard life, “it’s the choices you make after that” that matter.
“I can rest on my past and blame, blame, blame, but it’s not going to do anything for me. It’s not going to do anything for the area I’m in, the society I’m in, and I have to make the choice to say, ‘How do I do better?’”
Sparks is serving her third term as District 12 Kent County Commissioner and also has served on several community boards and organizations. Sparks is a multiple business owner, including Urban Sparks Realty and Body Sculpt Better Body Bar & Spa.
Sparks and Tyson both attribute their current success to “good and solid parenting.”
“Parents who were invested and parents who actually cared,” Tyson explained.
Alonzo and Joyce raised the twins to have awareness for “understanding purpose, understanding … that we are in control of our destiny. We are in control of our own fate.”
That awareness instilled a desire to help others in their community.
“Monica and I see more for other people because we are not supposed to be here, statistically,” Tyson said.
Extremely close, but opposing political parties
Sparks and Tyson entered the political realm in an effort to extend that help, but as members of different political parties.
When first running for office, Sparks declared her political affiliation to be with the Democratic party, Tyson, the Republican Party. Both decisions were products of research and personal preferences.
Tyson grew up believing Alonzo and Joyce were Republicans. When Tyson ran for office and had to declare a party, she was surprised to find out they were not. She then asked the question of herself, “What am I?”
“I didn’t want to just check a box, to just assume that I was one thing or another,” Tyson said, “but once I started researching the platforms of the parties, then I tried to see how it aligned with my ‘everyday.’ Once I saw how the Republican party aligned with my ‘everyday,’ and then once I saw how I voted (in the past), I typically voted Republican.”
The reason for voting Republican was not a conscious choice. Tyson said she listened to the message each candidate brought to the table, not their political party affiliation.
“I wish that was something most people would do, but unfortunately we get caught in the cog of being one thing or another,” Tyson said.
Politics don’t drive a wedge between them
Sparks and Tyson believe the political parties are merged in many ways.
“We all say the same thing,” Tyson said. “We want the pursuit of happiness, life, liberty, justice … we want healthy families, healthy schools. Most of the time I find that people are talking about issues and how to solve them.”
However, Sparks and Tyson are not immune to how polarizing politics can be. In an effort to help create hope and understanding between people, Sparks said they are currently working together on publishing a book about “the polarization of America … and how to bridge that gap.”
“There are a lot of gray areas,” Sparks said. “People want you to say something is black or white, yes or no, but there are many different pockets or issues that spawn off one main issue.”
Both sisters recognize a direct correlation between their political and business lives with how they were raised. An example: “Being responsible, making sure we took care of our business financially, things of that nature,” Sparks said.
But that doesn’t mean they don’t have fun.
“We are very close,” Sparks said. “We do a lot of things together. And, we do things that we love to do, so it propels us forward. We don’t feel like we work. We know we work; we don’t feel like we work.”
D. A. (Deborah) Reed is an award-winning author of young adult novels and a creative writing instructor from the Grand Rapids area. To find out more about D.A. Reed, visit her website: D.A. Reed Author
