By Deborah Reed
WKTV Managing Editor
Many students feel anxiety as a new school year approaches, no matter their age.
Board certified behavior analyst Katrina Newman of Wedgwood Christian Services (WCS) has developed a 10-point tip sheet to help parents and children prepare for the upcoming school year.
Due to her prior experience as a teacher and currently part of the after school program of the WCS Autism Center for Child Development (ACCD), Newman recognizes that children with autism often struggle with change more than most.
The carefully crafted tip sheet aims to ensure that parents and children – with and without autism – start the year off in comfortable fashion.
Alleviating back-to-school jitters
“Most kids on the spectrum, or even not on the spectrum, feel anxious about going from summer to school,” said Newman. “It’s a big change.
“Anytime there’s a change in routine, it’s really important to have a plan and to practice. That really makes your child more comfortable and helps them to know what to expect.”
Much of the anxiety that comes with starting a new school year can come from not knowing what to expect when they walk in the school doors for the first time.
Some common questions youth have are: Where do we enter the school? Where do we line up? What’s the routine? Did anything change over the summer? Other questions may revolve around getting on the bus for the first time, carpooling for the first time, or having to walk down to the lunchroom.
Having the answers to those questions before the first day of school, Newman says, is really important.
Practice makes perfect
Many schools offer open houses the week before school to help alleviate some of that anxiety. However, there are several other options for parents with anxious children.
“It’s really important to stress that walking through the parking lot and walking through the hallways can be really intimidating, so you want to make sure you practice for safety and that kids know where they’re supposed to go,” says Newman.
Setting up a station at home for notes and permission slips that parents can check regularly also helps. “Have a folder so everybody knows where to put them and parents can check that folder,” Newman says.
Having kids practice their school sleep schedule in advance is also beneficial because it takes 2-3 weeks for our bodies to get used to the change. Even practicing that change a few days in advance can be worthwhile.
“Being consistent, that’s really important,” says Newman. “Whenever you do start it, just keep it going so that their body and their rhythms can get used to getting up a little earlier and going to bed a little earlier then in the summer.”
For children who struggle more with social anxiety, role-playing can be beneficial.
“It’s important to practice introducing yourself and role-play making friends,” Newman says, adding that it can be as simple as telling someone your name, asking for that person’s name, and trying to find something in common with them.
“You might point out something like, ‘You have a Minecraft shirt on – I love Minecraft. What’s your favorite way to play?’” says Newman. “Just looking at those visual cues and trying to connect with people, that’s an important skill.”
Gaining perspective through books
There is also value in reading books to younger children that focus on back-to-school jitters.
Kids might relate to the main character who also feels anxiety or is unsure what to expect. They may also simply feel excitement.
“As they read, they’ll have a pretty good idea of what the first day will look like,” says Newman. “[The book] has a lot of details that they might not bring up, but then after reading the book you can discuss that. It’s really good to open up that conversation.”
How to start a conversation with your child
For parents who are unsure how to approach their child about whether or not they feel anxious, Newman says to keep it simple.
“Just have a simple conversation where you ask them, ‘What do you think about going back to school? We’re going back next Tuesday, what are you thinking about?’” Newman says. “That way it’s more that they can tell you if they’re excited, they can tell you if they’re worried. They get to tell you how they feel instead of you saying: ‘Are you worried?’”
Is routine necessary?
Humans, regardless of age, lifestyle, or background, thrive on routine and benefit from having an established schedule.
According to the Blue Sprig website, routines are key to helping us thrive because routine comes naturally, provides stress relief and brings order to an otherwise chaotic world.
Routines are particularly helpful for children with autism due to the repetitive patterns of behavior, activities, and hobbies. The adherence to an established routine can be a powerful tool in bringing stability and comfort to any child’s life.
Daily routines can:
- Build a stronger caregiver-child connection
- Reduce power struggles and stress
- Improve cooperation
- Foster a genuine sense of ownership over their day
- Create an environment of security and comfort
Removing any routine in a child’s life can be stressful. Newman says the most important thing is to talk about all changes in routine with kids, emphasizing what they can expect during that season of change.
