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“Nobody asked me”: How to have holiday conversations with aging family members

Holiday celebrations can lead to tough conversations about the decline in mental and physical health of elderly parents or grandparents (Courtesy, pxhere.com)


By Deborah Reed

WKTV Managing Editor

deborah@wktv.org


The elderly may be resistant to hearing concerns about their health (Courtesy, Adobe Stock)

Various changes take place as we age, many of them unwanted.

“Things happen to you [during aging], and they don’t happen on your terms,” says Rev. Howard C. Earle Jr., Chaplain and Director of Spiritual Care for Beacon Hill at Eastgate. “As we age, things start to happen – whether we want them to or not.”

For some, holiday celebrations are a time when family members measure the decline in mental and physical health of elderly parents or grandparents. That decline often leads to tough conversations such as: “Dad, it’s time to stop driving – for your safety and others” or “Mom, we don’t need you to host Christmas this year – come to dinner at our house and just enjoy.”

Though these well-intentioned conversations come from a place of caring, Earle says the elderly often do not hear it that way.

Nobody asked me…

Whether our bodies begin to break down and fail, our life partner dies, we slip and fall, or we simply can’t care for ourselves any longer, these changes are out of our control and often frustrating because they can mean having our independence abruptly taken away.

“There was no real outlet where there could be some real transparency and sense of community to process what [the elderly] feel,” says Earle.

Seeing the need for such an outlet, Earle began an ongoing weekly discussion series titled “Nobody Asked Me.”

Nobody Asked Me creates a safe space for Beacon Hill residents to share honestly with each other (Courtesy, iStock)

“We created this space where we could be totally honest about what we feel as we enter into these phases and seasons of life,” says Earle.

For the past two years, Earle has led various discussions on aging each Tuesday morning at 9:30 a.m. Residents talk through their feelings about changes that happen with aging, and feature topics such as health, grief, technology, activities…and holidays.

As we enter the holiday season, Earle is also conducting a special holiday series called Hope for the Holidays. “It’s the same concept,” says Earle. “It’s about processing what they feel regarding anything concerning life.”

Earle leads the discussion with “Nobody asked me…” and then follows it up with an issue such as “…if I wanted to give up my keys.” The discussion then revolves around all things connected to that experience.

A resonating resource 

(Courtesy, iStock)

Earle says the weekly discussions are one piece of Beacon Hill programming that has resonated with all residents and become a valuable resource.

Though Earle is a chaplain, he says Nobody Asked Me discussions are not faith-based, intentionally generating conversation from a life perspective.

“It doesn’t matter what your religion is, you get old,” says Earle. “Everybody gets old, and everybody feels some kind of way about getting old.”

Think before speaking

When asked what advice he would give to younger generations as they prepare for family celebrations, Earle says to be patient, intentional and considerate.

“Senior adults need to know that they still matter,” says Earle. “Be intentionally affirming but also be sensitive.”

Earle cautions against generalizing the elderly by labeling them mean or grumpy. Instead, be mindful of what it might feel like to not see or hear well, making it difficult to feel part of the surrounding conversations and festivities.

“Be as thoughtful as you can…and try to be open to what some of these realities are.”

Earle encourages residents to live life on their own terms by taking full advantage of all opportunities (Courtesy, Joanne Bailey-Boorsma)

Live life on your terms 

Each week, Earle reminds residents that they are alive – and encourages them to live life on their own terms by taking advantage of opportunities such as exploring, investing in new relationships and learning new things.

“Rather than thinking of senior living as waiting until you die, think of it as living until you do,” says Earle. “You get to decide what living will look like.

“Living is going to look different for every person, but some things are going to be fundamental: remain relational, stay engaged, don’t isolate, don’t withdraw, have fun, laugh, learn. Those are things that I believe enrich life and make life worth living.”

Dreams were born, and some fulfilled, at DeVos Place during the Camping, Trailer & RV Show last weekend

By Deborah Reed

WKTV Managing Editor

deborah@wktv.org

Over 200,000 square feet of RVs and a dozen West Michigan RV dealers representing over 100+ lines descended upon DeVos Place in Grand Rapids last weekend, Jan. 18-21.

Camping and travel mean different things to different people – but they all involve dreams (Courtesy, Deborah Reed WKTV)

Grand Rapids Camper, Travel & RV Show – Michigan’s largest RV and family vacation show – offered visitors hundreds of RV options and accessories, as well as campgrounds and travel destinations. Children’s activities, a pancake breakfast and free seminars rounded out the event.

Detroit residents Chris and Kate Ahlgren were among thousands who came to look at available RV options.

Dreaming big

When asked why they chose to attend the GR Show, Kate said they were looking to “keep up on current trends so when it is time to buy, we know what’s out there.”

Current owners of a 2012 Rockwood Signature Ultralight 35-foot travel trailer, the Ahlgrens have decided it is time for an upgrade.

Frequent campers during the spring through fall months, the Ahlgrens and their four children have been dedicated campers for 16 years. Beginning with a tent and then borrowing a pop-up camper (“That is not for us!” said both Ahlgrens simultaneously), the couple moved on to a small travel trailer, finally purchasing the Rockwood in 2012.

Patrons could find everything from bare essentials to decorative accents (Courtesy, Deborah Reed WKTV)

Though the Rockwood is holding up well, the Ahlgrens are looking to move into a fifth wheel RV.

Why a fifth wheel?

“I was looking for the flexibility to sleep lots of different people in lots of different combinations,” said Kate, adding that they can have upwards of 10 people or more camping with them at one time.

Chris liked the ease and safety of a fifth wheel. “Fifth wheels are easier and safer to tow because of the hitch point,” said Chris. “The pivot point moves versus your bumper. so they’re easier to back in and tow.

“And they’re safer because it’s a more solid connection versus just a two-inch ball.”

The small things matter

Ben Swathwood talks with the Ahlgrens about the Paradigm fifth wheel and Alliance mission (Courtesy, Deborah Reed WKTV)

While at the Show, the Ahlgrens found an RV that “checked all the boxes” in a 41-foot Alliance Paradigm 380MP fifth wheel.

What helped check all of those boxes, the Ahlgrens said, were small things that Alliance took into consideration that most other RV companies do not.

And a lot of those “small things” revolved around Alliance’s choice to focus on communication and relationships with their customers versus simply following the latest trend.

“It all goes back to what’s best for our retail customers,” said Ben Swathwood, Alliance Regional Sales Manager. “Before we built a single unit, we crowdsourced from full-time RVers.

“We’re not just throwing stuff at the wall to see what sticks and making changes later. We’re really taking our cues from them.”

A customer talks with Never Enough Auto Accessories vendor (Courtesy, Deborah Reed WKTV)

And what was important to customers were high-quality parts and pieces, and a need for more efficiency. This increased the number of Alliance menu options available to retailers.

“That’s been revolutionary for us, to have that relationship,” said Swathwood. “And then our independence, being privately owned, allows us to say: This is what we’re going to do.”

Paradigm shows some of these customer-driven adjustments in several areas. Four flush slide-outs, large pass-through storage areas, dual power gas and electric water heaters, shut-off valves at every plumbing fixture, Azdel Onboard composite sidewalls, PVC roof material with a life-time warranty, fully functional windows, hardwood cabinetry, hardwired switches, and no carpet or floor vents were a few items on that list.

“We don’t use any Bluetooth technology,” Swathwood added. “We don’t have any tablets, so you don’t have to worry about connectivity issues.

“What happens if you can’t connect to that tablet? What happens if that tablet breaks?”

“Just listen…”

“Find joy in the journey” (Courtesy, Deborah Reed WKTV)

The pillars of Alliance, Swathwood said, are: “Do the right thing, customer-obsessed, and then a relentless improvement on our side from the ground up. All of those things go back to that point of, let’s just listen.”

Chris and Kate Ahlgren appreciate that attention to detail and listening ear. For the Ahlgren family, camping is more than a cheap way to have a vacation.

“It’s time spent with our family with a whole lot less distractions,” said Kate, mentioning work, house chores and electronics as examples.

“Originally, when we started camping, the rule was no electronics,” said Kate. “We didn’t allow our kids to have them while camping. Our kids were outside and playing in the woods and building forts.”

And even though the Ahlgren’s trailer has a television, they do not use it.

“I couldn’t even tell you if my TV antenna goes up on the trailer,” Chris said with a shrug.

The Ahlgrens were pleased to find new options for campgrounds and details on towing equipment, though a larger number of accessory vendors in 2025 would be welcomed.

For more information on 2024 events/expos at DeVos Place, click here.

Kentwood to celebrate National Night Out Tuesday, Aug. 2

Kentwood police officers, firefighters and city leaders will celebrate National Night Out on Tuesday, Aug. 2. (Courtesy)



By WKTV Staff

Kentwood police officers, firefighters and city leaders will help celebrate National Night Out on Tuesday, Aug. 2. The event will feature block parties, neighborhood events and more.

  

National Night Out is an annual nationwide event that promotes community-police partnerships and encourages residents to turn on their porch lights and come outside to connect with their neighbors, community leaders and local police and fire department personnel.

Kentwood’s National Night Out celebration will be held at various locations on Tuesday, Aug. 2. (Courtesy)

Kentwood police officers, firefighters and leaders will join residents at 15 gatherings, most of which will take place from 6-8 p.m. Residents can learn about a variety of safety topics and explore police cruisers, fire engines and other emergency response vehicles at the events.

“National Night Out gives residents a chance to connect with our police and fire teams and learn how we can all be part of a community effort to make the City of Kentwood a wonderful place to call home,” Mayor Stephen Kepley said. “The city’s leadership team is excited to spend time with residents and enjoy an evening of camaraderie, community and connection.”

Several community-based events will be hosted throughout the evening and feature a variety of free activities, including appearances from McGruff the Crime Dog.

  • Ada Bible Church, 1640 East Paris Ave. SE, will offer food and activities from 5-8 p.m.
  • Pentecostals Church, 2627 44th St. SE, will host a party from 6-8 p.m.

     
Kentwood Police Chief Bryan Litwin (shown when he was deputy chief). (Courtesy)

“National Night Out is a great opportunity for our department to spend time with community members in a fun, relaxed setting,” Police Chief Bryan Litwin said. “We always look forward to this event and value strong community relationships.”

National Night Out was created in the 1980s through an established network of law enforcement agencies, neighborhood watch groups, crime prevention associations and volunteers across the country. It began with a goal to promote thriving neighborhoods by uniting community members and police against neighborhood crimes.

For more information, visit kentwood.us/NNO

Walker Boy Scout facility to host family fun event in October

Adventure Point is hosting family fun days in October. (Supplied)

WKTV Staff
joanne@wktv.org


Outdoor adventure center Adventure Point, the region’s premier youth and adult adventure center focused on team building, sustainability, STEM, leadership and outdoor adventures for all ages, is hosting Fall Harvest Days Saturday, Oct. 9 and Sunday, Oct. 10 at the 35 acre campus at 3213 Walker Avenue, just 2 miles northwest of downtown Grand Rapids.

Visitors must purchase tickets in advance for a morning or afternoon session. Saturday has two sessions: 9am-Noon and Noon-5pm. Sunday’s session runs from 11a-5pm.

This fun, family-friendly event is 100% outdoors and will incorporate safe social distancing and strict safety guidelines. Masks will be worn/required upon entry and in any area where 6 feet of distance cannot be guaranteed while on property.

Visitors are invited to come explore the beautiful 35+ acres that is Adventure Point during Fall’s most beautiful color display, with a wooded campus where Mill Creek runs along groomed trails.

ACTIVITIES (included with admission)

  • Apple Target Practice on the Archery Range –  Test your skills or learn a new one!
  • Apple Cider and Doughnut Cafe -Your admission includes a delicious snack of cider and freshly made doughnuts!
  • Fall Harvest Photo Shoot  – We will provide a beautiful Photo Shoot area where we will take your Fall photo and send you the digital copy, or bring your camera!
  • Visit Pumpkin Hollow – For guests 5 and under.  Games, Climbing Wall and even some tasty snack prizes!
  • Trick or Treat Trail  – Follow the clues and you can’t lose!  Trick or Treaters will love finding treats along our non-scary trails! 

EVENT PRICING

Family Pass – $75

  • Up to 6 members of same household.
  • Includes cider and doughnut for each person.
  • Includes visit to Pumpkin Hollow, Fall Photo Booth and Trick or Treat Lane.
  • 10 activity tickets (good for zipline, climbing wall, choice of shooting sports).

Individual Pass – $15

  • Admission for 1 Adult and 1 minor (4-17) child. 
  • Children under 4 admitted free.
  • Includes cider and doughnut.
  • Includes visit to Pumpkin Hollow, Fall Photo Booth and Trick or Treat Lane.
  • 2 activity tickets (good for zipline, climbing wall, choice of shooting sports).

Additional activity tickets can be purchased on site for $5.

Registration and more information can be found here: https://scoutingevent.com/272-FallHarvest2021

https://scoutingevent.com/272-FallHarvest2021

Bigger family, lower cancer risk?

Do siblings lower your cancer risk? New study finds people with big families are less likely to develop the disease. (Courtesy Spectrum Health Beat)

By Robert Preidt, HealthDay

 

If you come from a large family, you may have a lower risk of cancer, a new study suggests.

 

Researchers analyzed data from 178 countries and found that people from larger families were less likely to get cancer than those from smaller families.

 

The link between family size and cancer risk was “independent of income, levels of urbanization and age,” study senior author Maciej Henneberg said in a University of Zurich news release. He’s a guest professor in the Institute of Evolutionary Medicine at the university, in Switzerland.

 

Family size included not just parents and their children, but also members of the extended family in the household.

 

This protective effect of a large family was stronger in men than in women, according to the study published recently in the journal BMC Cancer.

 

It’s important to note, however, that the study only found an association between family size and cancer risk. It did not prove a cause-and-effect connection.

 

Family life can be stressful, but can also provide positive emotional environments that can boost a person’s resistance to diseases, including cancer, the researchers said.

 

Family members supporting one another in following a healthy lifestyle may also provide protection against cancer, the study authors added.


PAW Patrol Live! “Race to the Rescue” is Nov. 9 at DeVos Hall

property-header-paw-patrol-desktop-portrait-2xBased on the Spin Master-produced, hit animated TV series on Nickelodeon, PAW Patrol Live! “Race to the Rescue” brings PAW Patrol characters to the stage for an action-packed, musical adventure. When Mayor Goodway is nowhere to be found during the day of the Great Race, the pups come to the rescue. Join Ryder, Chase, Marshall, Rocky, Rubble, Zuma, Skye and the newest pup, Everest, when they take the stage for two shows at DeVos Performance Hall, 303 Monroe Ave. NW, Wednesday, Nov. 9, at 10 a.m. and 6:00 p.m.

 

PAW Patrol Live! “Race to the Rescue” shows that “no job is too big, no pup is too small,” and shares lessons for all ages about citizenship, social skills and problem-solving as the characters each use their unique skills and teamwork. The show includes two acts and an intermission, and incorporates an innovative costume approach that brings the pups to life on stage with their vehicles and packs during the rescue mission.

 

The performance features up-tempo music and is considered a good introduction to live theater for young children. Classic theatrical scenery along with a high-tech video wall visually transports families to locations from the TV series, like Adventure Bay, The Lookout, Seal Island, Farmer Yumi’s Farm and Jake’s Mountain. During the show, guests have the opportunity to participate in the adventure and become a part of the PAW Patrol Cheer Team.

 

Ticket prices are $19.50, $29.50, $39.50, $57.50, and $112.50 for VIP. Tickets are available here, at the DeVos Place and Van Andel Arena box offices, Ticketmaster.com, and by phone at 1-800-745-3000. A purchase limit of 10 tickets will apply to every order and prices are subject to change. All children ages one and older will require a ticket.

 

Groups of 10 or more can save $5 per ticket excluding VIP and Gold Circle seats. Groups can call 616-742-6185 or email GroupSales@smggr.com for more information or to purchase group tickets.

Local Soccer Star Lands a ‘Homegrown’ Dream Tryout

Life can have this fascinating way of coming full circle. A way of bringing us back to our roots on pathways that don’t become clear until a glance is taken in the rear-view mirror – which only happens once we’re at a place to truly call home. It is that sense of settlement that makes us feel secure enough to take a look back, and while the vision isn’t completely clear, it’s no longer a muddled mess; it’s an exciting and enthralling chance to see the events of the past lead to an optimistic future.

It’s a journey towards a new position in life to call home.

For Jesse Flores, 18, life is shaping a path to venture back to a home he’s never visited, it’s a dream scenario with love and passion at the core, and soccer as the catalyst.

Jesse Flores“I started playing soccer when I was 4, but I didn’t start to take it seriously until freshman year of high school,” describes Jesse with the tone and tenor of someone fondly remembering the moment they first fell in love.

For Jesse, soccer has always had that relationship. Sports are a bond that can bring generations, especially a father and son, together in ways that transcend the playing field.

“I remember growing up and watching Atlas games on TV with my dad. They’ve always been my favorite team.”

While Jesse is from Wyoming, MI, his parents Jose and Icela both hail from Guadalajara, Mexico, where Jose played soccer for the youth team Atlas Fútbol Club. That bond to Atlas, and Mexican soccer, was passed down to Jesse.

With a new focus on the game as a freshman at Wyoming High School, Jesse’s game started to flourish. As a three-year varsity goalie, Jesse became a leader on the team and utilized his 6’3″ frame and long wingspan to defend the cage. His size and leadership allowed Jesse to lead the state in saves his senior season and earned him post-season honors.

Even with all the success, it was hard to imagine playing soccer at the next level.

“I didn’t consider it a real possibility until my high school coach, Romer Carrasco, told me that he thought I could play at the next level. Once I realized an opportunity after high school was possible, more doors opened up.”

Jesse and high school coach Romer Carrasco
Jesse and high school coach Romer Carrasco

Jesse wound up earning a scholarship to play soccer at the University of Saint Francis in Indiana. While the team struggled this past season, Jesse played well and compiled a highlight film to send out to professional teams in Mexico.

A professional opportunity was still nothing more than a dream.

“I connected with an agent in California who works with young players. He gets your info and film in front of Mexican teams,” recounts Jesse as he racks his brain, still marveling at the details of his incredible journey and opportunities awaiting on the path before him. “I’ve always dreamed of playing professionally, but I didn’t know if I’d have a chance.”

Since that time, two teams have reached out to Jesse to schedule tryouts: Chiapas Fútbol Club and hometown favorite Atlas Fútbol Club of Guadalajara. The tryout with Chiapas is already in the books, and the Atlas tryout will happen this summer. Chiapas didn’t offer a contract, but Jesse took some positives from the experience to build on before the tryout with Atlas.

“I didn’t end up getting the contract with Chiapas, but I was able to get a feel for how a professional tryout works. I was nervous and didn’t play loose. That won’t happen next time.” The club also gave Jesse some feedback on his play. “They told me to work on my conditioning, but also that they saw my potential. That was great to hear because it gives me more confidence knowing that I have the tools and the skill. I can always work on my conditioning!”

In the meantime, before the tryout with Atlas, Jesse will continue his education and playing career at Davenport University after transferring from Saint Francis to be closer to home. The newfound possibilities of becoming a professional soccer player mean more to Jesse than just personal achievement; he sees it as an opportunity to inspire.

Jesse Flores“I want to inspire others as I go along. I was once that young kid who wanted to be professional, and now I have that opportunity. I want to do my best and achieve what I can so I can give back to the community of Wyoming and my high school. They’ve been so supportive of me up until this point. I want to give it back.”

This summer, Jesse will travel down to Guadalajara for an opportunity of a lifetime. Not only will he be trying out for his childhood team, but Jesse will visit his parents’ birthplace and meet family for the first time. He will see the city that his favorite soccer team calls home and immerse himself with the Club he hopes to call his own.

Jesse’s story is more than just an inspirational tale; it is a journey of family and sport coming full circle because of the bond created by a father, a son, their team, and a ball.

Wyoming’s Great Candy Cane Hunt

Candy Cane HuntThis Saturday, December 12, a multitude of children will find themselves waiting patiently at Pinery Park in hopes that Santa will arrive. However, instead of appearing on his sleigh pulled by reindeer, Santa will be coming in hot thanks to the Wyoming Fire Department!

After the spirited arrival, the real fun can begin with Santa leading the children on a Great Candy Cane Hunt throughout the park. Immediately following the hunt, the adventure continues as the group scampers across the street to the Wyoming Senior Center to play board games, color, eat lunch, and sit down with Santa to share their holiday wish list.

Candy CaneThis year, the Wyoming Senior Center will have some new “life-size” games for the everyone to enjoy. Enlarged Jenga pieces and giant Connect Four boards are sure to bring some extra magic to an event already beaming with it.

The Great Candy Cane Hunt is a timeless Wyoming tradition and a kick-off to the ensuing Christmas and Holiday seasons.

“I plan a lot of events, but this event is special,” exclaimed City of Wyoming Recreation Programmer Kenny Westrate. Westrate has planned the Great Candy Cane Hunt for the past eleven years. “You get to see the smiling faces of the kids during the hunt and when they see Santa. You get to see families playing board games and enjoying each other. You don’t always see that with other events, but it’s guaranteed every December.”

Come on out to Pinery Park this Saturday for a fun-filled day of laughs, smiles, family, and Santa!

Pre-registration is required. You can download a registration form here or you can register online.

Event details are below:

Date: Saturday, December 12
Time: 11:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m.
Location: Pinery Park for the hunt followed by lunch at the Wyoming Senior Center
Age: All ages
Cost: Ages 3-14 – $4 Resident, $6 Non-Resident (All others – $2)

Remember, the Great Candy Cane Hunt is outdoors, so dress accordingly!