No matter the cost: Liz Midkiff risked everything to find freedom – and her voice
By Deborah Reed
WKTV Managing Editor
TRIGGER WARNING: This article contains sensitive information about violence and rape that may be distressing or traumatic for some individuals.
Liz Midkiff was trafficked for two years before she found a way out. Held captive physically and emotionally, Midkiff finally had enough.
“I finally got out of it by running into the woods,” said Midkiff. “I think I just lost my mind. At one point I’m like, they can kill us all. I’m going to call my dad.”
Midkiff called her father at 4 a.m. and asked him to come get her – immediately. “He didn’t ask any questions. He got me and took me home. They lived four hours away.”
Midkiff and her father didn’t talk during the car ride home. In fact, he did not know what he had rescued his daughter from until years later. He simply knew his daughter called, she was frantic, and he needed to go get her.
Though Midkiff received threatening phone calls after she escaped, her traffickers did not want to cross state lines, so she was not in physical danger.
Midkiff stayed with her parents as she began the healing process, describing her parents’ home as her safe house.
“Even if you get somebody out of [trafficking], you’ve got to get them to a place that’s safe or they’re never going to heal,” said Midkiff, adding that many victims do not have a safe place to go to. “I feel really blessed that I had parents that were able to help me.”
Finding hope and purpose
Midkiff’s healing process was long and difficult, mentally and physically.
“I had to have multiple surgeries because people did some ungodly things,” said Midkiff.
The mental and emotional side of healing was difficult for many reasons.
“It wasn’t easy because I didn’t even know I was trafficked until years later,” Midkiff admitted, adding that she was continually told she simply had “bad boyfriends” and that her experiences happen to everyone. “I didn’t know there was an actual name for it.”
It wasn’t until she heard trafficking talked about on television that Midkiff realized: This is what happened to me.
Armed with that knowledge, Midkiff attempted to facilitate healing by talking with various therapists, but did not find it helpful.
“Most therapists have no idea what trafficking is,” said Midkiff. “They have no idea how to speak to a survivor.”
Midkiff found herself struggling with deep-seated anger as she sought meaning in what happened to her. “I just wanted to have meaning to what happened. I wanted to make sense of it, and I wanted purpose in my life.”
Eventually, Midkiff found a Christian counselor who asked where her journey first began. Midkiff explained about her mission trip to Thailand and the call she felt from God to fight trafficking. The counselor then asked Midkiff: “Do you think it’s a possibility that Satan heard that goal too, and he wanted to try to bring you down because you have something so powerful to say?”
Midkiff felt like a switch had been flipped.
“When I felt like I had a call on my life, I feel like that was from God. Three years later, I just happened to be trafficked myself.
“I feel that Satan tried to bring me down with the one thing I was supposed to fight. That there is something that I have to say that is so powerful, he just wanted to destroy it.”
For years, Midkiff did keep silent. “I didn’t want to talk about it. If I can’t even protect myself, how can I help other people?”
As Midkiff struggled with survivor’s guilt over escaping the trafficking business while others remained victims, Midkiff’s husband echoed the suggestion that Midkiff might have something to say.
“Maybe you have something that needs to be said, and so you need to use that to fight it,” Midkiff’s husband told her. “Instead of in anger, fight it by helping other people.”
Midkiff began seeing other survivors lead programs and meetings and was intrigued.
“Hearing from other survivors, how powerful their story is and how they can help others with what they went through, I thought, I have that. There are so many things that could be said about what happened to me.”
A lifelong journey of healing
Aspects of her physical trauma remain with Midkiff even now – and she refuses to be silenced about those experiences.
“To this day, I don’t sleep in a bed,” said Midkiff. “And if I do, I don’t sleep.
“I’ve been out of this for 15 years now, but to this day, I will wake up so tense I won’t be able to move, or I’ll have nightmares the whole night. I either sleep in a chair, or I sleep on the floor.”
When she married her husband, Roger slept on a couch and Midkiff slept on the floor.
“Eventually he just slept on the floor with me. He’s a big guy, so it shows his love, to be able to come down to my level.”
The fact that Midkiff was able to trust someone enough to marry was a monumental hurdle in its own right – and it took time.
“We would just hang out, [and] he became my best friend. He was different from every guy I’ve ever met.”
But even friendship didn’t come easily for Midkiff.
“I didn’t have friends. It’s still hard for me to make friends. I didn’t trust anybody. It was just me and my dog. I was very much a loner, and my husband very much pursued me, but in a friendship sort of way.”
When Midkiff’s dog died, Roger was there to support her.
“My dog had been through all of that with me. When he died, it was like my life was falling apart. But then Roger would just be there, just hang out with me as a normal person. He was never forceful, he was never weird.
“And I realized this is how people are supposed to be. I think that helped me be able to laugh again and be able to have fun.”
When Roger said he wanted to date Midkiff, she revealed everything in her past, fully expecting him to walk away.
“He didn’t leave,” said Midkiff. “He hugged me and said, ‘None of this was ever your fault.’ That was a turning point.”
But obstacles remained.
Because Midkiff’s experiences with men were entirely transactional, certain aspects of her relationship with Roger were difficult. When Roger took her hand or bought her flowers, Midkiff was instantly transported back to her past and became angry, asking what he wanted from her.
“During dating – and even marriage – there was a lot of ironing out of those things,” said Midkiff.
A large part of her healing came from turning back to her Christian faith.
“When [the trafficking] was actually happening, I would say I turned away from it, especially when the church rejected me,” said Midkiff. “That was my final straw. I had a nice little showdown with God in the car, actually. I still believed in Him, but didn’t want anything to do with Him.”
However, Midkiff could see God at work through specific instances where she was shielded from harm by people who said God sent them to protect her.
As Midkiff tried to make sense of why she went through being trafficked, she found purpose in her faith – and found her voice.
Taking a S.T.A.N.D
Midkiff says every step she takes toward speaking out has solidified her belief that God has called her to fight human trafficking.
“Things are happening,” said Midkiff. “The S.T.A.N.D class, different situations I’ve had talking to people, and seeing people freed from shame they felt. People only I would have been able to talk to.
“If you talk to another survivor, it means something different because they understand. I think it’s helped me a lot with my anger and guilt.”
Midkiff began speaking at public events – and happened to share her story at a Women At Risk, International CFR event where founder Rebecca McDonald was in attendance. The next day, McDonald invited Midkiff to speak at more WAR events.
Midkiff has worked with the nonprofit for the past five years, finding she fits well into the role of speaker. And Midkiff’s voice is having a powerful effect.
“Working with WAR, I can speak for survivors, and I can help them.”
Knowledge and preparation are vital
For the past five years, Midkiff has been sharing her story to help others recognize and prevent human trafficking. However, she only shared her story at WAR events. In April 2023, Midkiff took a leap of faith and shared her story on Facebook for the first time.
But she wants to do more.
Knowledge and recognition of what human trafficking truly consists of is vital in preventing trafficking. However, even if Midkiff had been prepared, she knew her trafficker for six months, and he seemed trustworthy. How could she have known she was entering a dangerous situation?
What would have made a difference, Midkiff said, was having knowledge of how to get out of that situation. “It’s not just how to prevent it but, if this happens to you or your friends, what can you do?”
Knowledge of what trafficking actually looks like is also important.
Midkiff observed that people have a basic knowledge of what trafficking is, but don’t know what it looks like or what to do if they see it. And most people don’t know what grooming means in the trafficking world.
“That’s where I feel I can help,” said Midkiff. “And WAR is such a big help to people because every trafficking case is different and we have the resources, we have the knowledge to back it up. We have Homeland Security, we have the FBI, we have all these things that maybe the everyday person doesn’t have.”
An ambassador for truth
As an ambassador for WAR, Midkiff’s ministry is funded through the generosity of supporters. Her passion for protecting children from trafficking keeps her continually seeking ministry opportunities.
“I created the S.T.A.N.D. classes because that was something that was really important to me as a mom.”
S.T.A.N.D. classes are available for children as young as 5-years-old and contain age appropriate material regarding safe relationships, stranger danger, private parts and personal privacy. Teen classes may include content about drugs, money, phones and social media.
However, Midkiff has noticed many parents avoid talking to their children about trafficking because they believe it will scare them.
“I think adults are more scared than the kids are,” said Midkiff, adding that even if they do talk to their kids, there are things parents would not know about.
“What I do is so new, and such a hard topic, that people are a little apprehensive about having me come out. So [I’m] just trying to be bold, stepping out and fighting for kids now because the media is certainly fighting to get your kids right now. Trafficking is happening.”
While Midkiff may never fully make sense of what happened to her, “I’ve come to the peace of: it happened. For whatever reason it happened, I have something to say that needs to be said. And that drives me to seek out these opportunities.”
*Continue reading Liz Midkiff’s survivor story and misconceptions about human trafficking in part four of her Voices of Freedom series, coming to WKTV Journal on Jan. 27, 2025.
Take a S.T.A.N.D.
WAR, Int’l is hosting two S.T.A.N.D. classes on Jan. 25 at the WAR Chest Boutique in Wyoming.
Created and designed by Liz Midkiff and Rebecca McDonald, these classes are teach safety awareness, trafficking signs, age appropriate communications/actions, and more.
– The Kids S.T.A.N.D. Session will be held from 11 a.m. – 12 p.m. for children ages 5-10 years old.
– The Teen S.T.A.N.D. Session will be held from 12:30 – 2 p.m. for youth ages 11-17 years old.
More details and registration information can be found here.
Resources
*In an emergency, call 911.
– If you or someone you know is a victim of human trafficking, contact the National Human Trafficking Hotline. It is a free, 24/7 service that offers confidential and multilingual support, information and local resources for victims, survivors, and witnesses of human trafficking.
The hotline can be reached:
- By phone: 1-888-373-7888
- By email: help@humantraffickinghotline.org
- By text: text HELP to 233733 (BEFREE)
- Online chat: www.humantraffickinghotline.org
– If you believe a child is involved, contact the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children at 1-800-THE-LOST or www.cybertipline.com, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
– Additional resources can be found here: Trafficking Resources.
– Women at Risk, International (WAR, Int’l) can be reached by phone at 616-855-0796, toll free at 877 END-SLAVERY (363-7528), or via email at info@warinternational.org. You can also reach them via their website contact form.
