During Pride Month, D.A. Blodgett – St. John’s (DABSJ) seeks to build awareness of the need for safe and affirming homes for LGBTQ+ youth in foster care.
The organization is also actively seeking foster parents from the LGBTQ+ community. With over a century in service to children and families, DABSJ is dedicated to providing safe, affirming, and loving homes for all youth. Including those from marginalized communities.
LGBTQ+ youth face additional challenges
According to the Human Rights Campaign, 30% of youth in foster care identify as LGBTQ+. This is a proportion much larger than identified in the general population.
These young people often face additional challenges and disparities in their care experiences, stemming from trauma related to abuse, neglect, and many times rejection due to their sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression.
Love and acceptance can make a difference in the life of our youth (Courtesy, pxhere.com)
“LGBTQ+ youth in foster care need safe and loving homes just as all children do,” said DABSJ Chief Programs Officer Joel Bell. “During Pride Month, we want to especially reach out to those who might join us in providing that crucial support for youth in care. Your love and acceptance can make all the difference in their lives.”
Inclusive approach = thriving youth
As DABSJ continues to innovate and adapt to meet the evolving needs of children and families, the organization recognizes the unique and vital role that LGBTQ+ foster parents can play. By opening their hearts and homes, these foster parents can offer a nurturing environment where youth in care can thrive.
“To some, there is a discussion of whether to allow foster parents from the LGBTQ+ community. For DABSJ, we are actively seeking foster parents from the LGBTQ+ community,” said Bell.
“We are looking to do what is best for each child as they heal from trauma, abuse, or neglect. Having an inclusive approach is key to that.”
For more information on how to become a foster parent with DABSJ, and to learn about the support and resources available, please visit www.dabsj.org or email fosterparentinfo@dabsj.org to take the first step.
Many women doubt themselves and stop moving forward (Courtesy, pxhere.com)
As the new year begins, many people are setting goals and resolutions to improve their lives. For some women, this means refocusing on their own dreams and aspirations. But for others, the start of a new year only brings added pressure and self-doubt.
Why is it that some women are so hard on themselves?
“Even at your lowest moments, you still need to move forward,” encourages Jánelle Marina Méndez Viera, who endured multiple adversities throughout her childhood and early adulthood. She is now passionate about helping other women overcome challenges.
“Maybe you’ve been told not to go for that risky job, or you’re afraid to relocate for your career because you’re a mom. It’s OK to be scared while you’re trying to figure something out. We all have moments when we don’t feel safe and comfortable. Risk taking throws you out of your comfort zone. As long as you’re not in danger, that discomfort will be part of your growth.”
Méndez Viera turned her adversities into a mission
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Méndez Viera endured many obstacles as a child and young adult, including multiple forms of sexual violence and modern slavery, some of which happened while she served in the military.
Now in her early 30s, she is using those negative experiences to fuel positive changes.
Méndez Viera has lobbied for and achieved changes in nearly every level of government. She is an author, academic researcher, human rights activist, entrepreneur and public speaker. “This journey has cultivated a resilience and determination within me that I hope to use to inspire others,” she says.
Méndez Viera’s advice on how to overcome anything
For women who are struggling right now, Méndez Viera suggests taking some of the same steps she followed. They include:
1. Believe in yourself and don’t give up. “No one knows your strength and capabilities better than you. Remain assured in your abilities and potential, despite any negative voices around or within you. Read the stories of people who’ve come before you and overcame similar adversities. This is extremely helpful during moments of doubt and can provide reassurance when things are looking dim.”
Méndez Viera found role models in confident women, some of whom paved the way for her own technological and human rights achievements.
Take time for healing and self-care in all areas (Courtesy photo)
“In the 1940s, Hedy Lamarr invented the ‘frequency hopping’ technology that became Bluetooth,” said Méndez Viera. “Eleanor Roosevelt was instrumental in founding the United Nations. On a personal level, I had an aunt whose unconditional love and support inspired me to be a more compassionate person. And even though my own family was dysfunctional, I had friends who taught me how to have healthy relationships.”
2. Take time for self-care. “Healing emotionally and physically is integral to personal development. For me, this meant regular exercise, meditation, therapy and ensuring a healthy lifestyle. Find your go-to self-care activities and make them a regular part of your routine, especially during the points that you want to give up.”
3. Reach out for help. “It can be tempting to isolate oneself in difficult times, but I’ve found that reaching out to support groups, psychologists and networks of individuals who have faced similar experiences can be very helpful.”
4. Become an ambassador of change. “Activism provided me with a sense of purpose and passion. Use your experience to influence changes that can help others with similar struggles so that you are empowering others and making their journeys less painful and more about healing.”
Continually growing and learning is empowering (Courtesy, pxhere.com)
5. Never stop learning. “Continual growth and education served as a beacon of light in my darkest times. As an author and inventor, I found solace, purpose, and game-changing dynamism in the pursuit of knowledge and innovation. Resources like PTSD support groups, the Veterans Administration, counseling sessions, and various online platforms such as Veterans Crisis Line can be of immense help during troubled times.
“For me, reading research reports regarding various social sciences helped me understand the societal problems that caused my trauma. They empowered me to take meaningful actions for advocacy that led to me authoring the Restoration of Honor Act of 2019.”
She emphasizes, “Sometimes obstacles can be opportunities to learn more about yourself, and to create a better path for your life. You can learn to thrive even during hard times.”
